Redditor Asks For Advice On How To Deal With His "Massively Overweight" Father

The OP says "it sucked" because his dad was always too overweight to do anything with him as a child.

Stephanie

• Published in Interesting
• February 25, 2023

Family relationships can become strained for a myriad of different reasons. After all, life gives us plenty to deal with, both good and bad.

Reddit user u/catsinthecradleandth recently shared a story in the AITA (Am I The A**hole?) subreddit about the damaged relationship he has with his food-addicted father. The original poster explained that his dad is "massively overweight," and although he has lost almost 100 lbs over the past six months, he still weighs more than 300 lbs.

The OP says his father has been overweight his whole life, and up until recently, he has been in denial about it. The Redditor's parents were in the process of getting divorced when his mother sadly passed away.

So, his father was all the OP had left, and he says "it sucked" because his dad was always too overweight to do anything with him as a child. The OP says he had to create his own life, and skateboarding became his passion.

The Redditor is graduating high school soon and plans to move away from home to work in a friend's skate shop. He says his father is upset because, now that he is getting better, he wants the OP to get to know him as a non-addict.

But, the OP says that although he loves his father, he feels his efforts are too little too late at this point. Keep scrolling to see how people reacted.

The OP posted about the damaged relationship he has with his food-addicted father.

The Redditor says he had to create his own life, and skateboarding became his passion.

The OP is graduating high school soon and plans to move away from home to work in a friend's skate shop.

But his father is upset because, now that he is getting better, he wants the OP to get to know him as a non-addict.

But, the OP says that although he loves his father, he feels his efforts are too little too late at this point.

Here's how people reacted.

"It's too little, too late."

"You need to live your life."

"If he can't put your needs first after a lifetime of neglect, he has bigger issues than food."

"Make your own choices."

"You love him in your own way."

"Do not miss your chance to follow your dreams."

"Explain to your father you are your own man due to his actions."

NTA.

"It sounds like you still hold a lot of resentment toward him."

"Embrace your adulthood."

ESH.

"It's never too late."

"His issues are his."

"Live your life."

What's your take on this situation? Do you think the OP is being insensitive towards his father, or are his feelings of resentment reasonable under the circumstances?

Either way, it sounds like there has been a lot of pain over the years from both sides. This father and son both have a lot of healing to do, and we hope they're able to find their peace.

Stephanie