Overprotective Mom Refuses To Let Daughter Sleep Over At Friend's Unless They Agree To Her One Rule, Redditors React

"This to us felt like a flag"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• June 3, 2024

Overly protective parents try to control their child's behavior, schoolwork, social circles, and obligations. Even though parents genuinely want the best for their children, their actions may be invasive and harmful to the growth of the child.

In addition to other problems with family relations, overprotective parenting can make children feel extremely dependent on their parents. Parents who are overly protective worry about a variety of things, most notably the mental and physical well-being of their kids.

Parents who are too protective take aggressive measures to eliminate any barriers from their children's path out of concern for their welfare. The OP happened to be the center of an overprotective mom's demand.

The thing is, OP's daughter has been attending charter schools online, and because they connect kids with others locally, she made a friend there. Her friend lives about an hour out of town but comes into town often, and they hang out at the library or park.

The issue now is that OP's daughter wants to have her friend over at their house to hang out, but a rule was applied. OP's wife tells him that the friend's mother will only allow it if the OP is not at home.

This felt like a red flag to them, but you can read the full story below to find out what happened.

The OP writes

The daughter's friend lives about an hour out of town, but comes into town too

The OP has 3 other kids and they don't think it's wise to take that kind of risk

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I refused to let my daughter's friend visit at our house because her mother won't allow me to be present at the same time and it seems like a red flag. I might be the AH because I could be being paranoid myself and my daughter is angry with us.

Here are a bunch of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors

This Redditor is being quite fair

No one gets to kick you out of your own house

This is very odd

The OP left this edit behind

My wife made another attempt to reach out to her. My wife explained what she was told via her daughter and wanted to find a way to work it out. So my wife invited her to dinner and she responded positively! So that's good. Hopefully we can work all this out for my daughter's sake.

And the comments keep rolling in...

The OP should buy his daughter a phone

Charter schools can be fine

This is messy

Due to their extreme worry for their child's safety, overprotective parents frequently micromanage their children in an attempt to keep them from getting hurt as they do not want to take chances. This is the case here and the OP did mention that he knows the daughter's name, but not her mother's.

Also, she won't speak with them but from the edit, we see that they're planning to work things out. Eventually, Redditors declared the OP not the AH.

Maryjane