Redditor Asks If She Handled Her On/Off Friendship Correctly

"I don’t see how I was rubbing anything in her face."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• March 26, 2023

Friendships can be some of the most meaningful and important relationships in our lives, but they can also be a slippery slope. Maintaining a healthy and positive friendship requires effort and communication from both parties and even with the best intentions, things can still go wrong.

OP had a friend with a history of inconsistent behavior in their friendship, often due to personal issues and toxic relationships. However, the friend had recently made positive changes, and they reconnected.

A few months into their renewed friendship, the friend became blunt and abrupt with OP. OP asked if they had done something wrong, and the friend claimed OP was being self-centered and rubbing her holidays and financial stability in her face.

OP was surprised by the accusations, as they did not see it that way, and their mother, who was aware of their conversations, also did not believe OP was being rude. Despite the friend's behavior is a pattern, OP was unsure if they could have handled the situation better.

They also felt the friend's behavior may have been a result of OP not always accommodating her requests, such as hanging out at a car boot sale or going out while OP was at work. OP wondered if they could have done more to handle the situation better and avoid the friend cutting them off again.

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OP had a friend with a history of inconsistent behavior in their friendship, often due to personal issues and toxic relationships.

However, the friend had recently made positive changes, and they reconnected.

OP asked if they had done something wrong

OP was surprised by the accusations, as they did not see it that way,

. Despite the friend's behavior is a pattern, OP was unsure if they could have handled the situation better.

OP now asks the Reddit crowd to pass judgment

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

"She's used to people catering to her moods"

OP needs to find new friends

Or, as this Redditor puts it...

This Redditor is right:

The bottom line is:

One common issue in friendships is miscommunication. When one friend feels hurt or upset, it can be difficult to express those feelings in a way that the other person can understand.

This can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings that can be difficult to repair. Another issue in friendships is the balance of give and take.

Friendships require effort from both people, but it's important to make sure that one person is not doing all the giving while the other takes. This can lead to feelings of resentment and can cause the friendship to deteriorate.

Finally, life changes can also impact friendships. When one person goes through a big change, such as a new job, a move, or a major life event, it can be difficult to maintain the same level of closeness as before.

OP was not wrong here, and she should find better friends.

Damjan