Redditor Divorced His Wife After Five Years Of Marriage Because They Never Consummated It, But She Tries To Ruin His Relationship By Lying He Is Impotent

"She basically is saying I denied her sex for years, and that she begged me for it weekly"

Filip

• Published in Funny
• September 23, 2023

Divorces are always hard, but if a couple can find mutual joy, it's better to get a divorce than live a miserable life. There are usually two sides to every story, but when it comes to divorce, some people tend to play the victim and make things up to hide the painful truth.

This also happened to a Reddit user, so he shared his story online, asking how he should deal with his ex-wife. The OP said he has been in a relationship with a wonderful woman since August 2020.

Before this, he had taken an intended break from dating, using the time following his divorce in January 2018 for introspection, therapy, and self-improvement. He ventured into personal journeys, traveling and seeking ways to improve himself before committing to another romantic relationship.

The OP explained he cheated on his ex-wife earlier, which he attributes to tolerating a five-year sexless marriage. Their romance started in a church when he was around 24.

They decided to abstain from intimacy until marriage, based on his ex-wife's desire to "save herself." Yet, the expected intimacy never appeared even after they got into marriage.

Feeling trapped in a marriage devoid of physical connection and regretfully lacking the skills to communicate effectively, the OP sought comfort elsewhere. When his wife learned about the affair, she shared the news with the entire family and mutual friends.

It forced the OP into the uncomfortable position of explaining his side of the story. But the OP was honest in his current relationship and told the details of his prior infidelity to his new partner.

However, his ex-wife reached out to his current girlfriend on Facebook and spun a tale describing the OP as the one refusing intimacy, contradicting what had happened. While the OP's girlfriend remains supportive, having known the truth from the beginning, the OP seeks advice on dealing with the complexities of past relationships in today's interconnected digital world.

Here is the OP's issue:

The OP explained he started dating two years after the divorce:

He explained he divorced because he cheated on his wife due to non-existent intimacy for five years:

His ex-wife remarried the same year, but when learning the OP was in a relationship, she tried to ruin it:

His ex contacted his girlfriend and told her lies about their marriage and the divorce:

A Redditor said someone close to him must be giving her information about his life

The OP should change his passwords

Ignoring her would be the best option

The OP explained:

"Have her block your ex wife"

"She's not happy that you are happy, and she has no power over you"

"You're creating a problem where there is none."

Redditors told the OP that the best option is to ignore his ex-wife. The most important thing is his girlfriend believes him, so his ex-wife can't harm him anymore.

There is nothing to be worried about, and he shouldn't be bothered by his ex-wife's petty attempts to ruin his relationship.

Filip