Woman Gets Online Support For Not Letting The Mother Of A Disabled Child In Their Parenting Group

"We feel bad, but also, this isn't a play group, it's a support group."

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• November 3, 2022

Everyone has their own problems to deal with and adding a disability to that is a no, no. But then, there are people who are disabled and they do have to deal with it.

A disability is any condition, whether physical or mental, that makes it harder for the person with the condition to engage in a particular activity (or activities) or interact with the world around them. Some of the time, people with disabilities come together to form a union so they can support each other.

We see something of that nature in today's AITA story, or better yet, are we the AH story. The OP happens to be in a group for disabled parents, not for parents of disabled children.

It's important to get the difference here, as the group is meant for parents who have disabilities. While many of this group's members have a child or children with disabilities, that is not why they are in the group.

The purpose of the group is to have "a support network of other parents with disabilities free of the stigma and confusion that disabled people with children so often face." But then comes this parent who has a disabled child and wishes to join the group.

Bear in mind that she wasn't disabled, and when she was told she couldn't be part of the group, she flared up. Keep scrolling to read the story in full.

The OP writes:

Having a support network of other parents with disabilities

He was a very sweet boy, and he played well with the other kids

We told her she couldn't be a member of the group

This group is our safe space, and she is intruding on it

In only a day of being posted, the Reddit thread got over 6K upvotes along with hundreds of comments. Here are some of the topmost replies below:

She does not understand the issue at all

It is simply a group for parents with disabilities

She absolutely refused to acknowledge the real thing

She should look for a group that fits her needs

It's her fault for not understanding simple words

They only hear what they want to hear

She thought she found a group for her kid

There are groups she and her son will fit into

Hopefully, this can defuse things a little bit

You have to preserve the integrity of the group

She doesn't seem to understand what the group is for

That does not sound like the case here

She doesn't fit the qualifications for it

It is not going to be a productive experience for her

There are groups out there for parents of disabled kids

Doesn't sound like she's looking for friendship for anything

She seems uninterested in the group

The group has nothing to do with her son

Calling you the c word is just uncalled for

The reason for the group

The phrase "disability" is used to describe how a person functions, including how they are affected by physical, sensory, cognitive, intellectual, and behavioral health impairments as well as different kinds of chronic diseases. Clearly, the woman misunderstood the purpose of the group and it's best they handled it once and for all.

Do drop your thoughts about this story in the comments below.

Maryjane