Stunned Wife Believes Her Nine Affairs And Manipulative Behavior Are Insufficient Grounds For Divorce

"Besides what's wrong with me, what's wrong with me"

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• October 3, 2023

A recently divorced military man took to social media to share his personal account of betrayal and heartbreak, providing a screenshot of an email exchange with his ex-wife. Despite being family friends for about 15 years, he discovered a troubling side of his spouse that he never saw coming.

After finding out about his wife's first affair through a message from the other man, he made the difficult decision to work on their marriage. Fast forward a couple of years, and the man discovered his wife had engaged in eight more affairs.

This revelation came to light after he returned from a deployment to find that she had moved in with another man. The affairs spanned various demographics, involving both men and women of different ages and races.

Despite his disappointment and sense of betrayal, he attempted to seek counseling for both himself and his wife. Sadly, this effort did not result in any meaningful changes.

Now separated, the couple had been corresponding via email to discuss the financial matters left hanging from their dissolved marriage, such as unpaid taxes. In a surprising twist, his ex-wife sent him an unprompted email, prompting the man to question what really went wrong in their relationship.

While infidelity is a complex issue with no one-size-fits-all explanation, the man's story serves as a cautionary tale for those who think they truly "know" their partner. The circumstances also shed light on the emotional toll that a cheating spouse can have on their significant other, who is left grappling with questions of self-worth and the real motives behind such deception.

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OP shares this screenshot,with a caption: "She had 9 affairs during our relationship/marriage. Our divorce is finalized, and she sends me this."

OP shared some additional info about their marriage:

Despite his disappointment and sense of betrayal, he attempted to seek counseling for both himself and his wife. Sadly, this effort did not result in any meaningful changes.

She needs a straight answer, not beating around the bushes...

The audacity... Do you really need more?

She needs therapy. Poor OP too

Why does she care? Does she even care, or just wants a fight?

No answer is the best answer when dealing with this type of people

"This just shows how * faithful* and forgiving you can be."

Or is OP naive and idiotic?

Some funny comments here:

This could be the answer to her motivation:

Pettiness is okay sometimes.

The sad part is:

The audacity of this woman to engage in multiple affairs and then seemingly play the victim is a disheartening example of how entitled individuals often try to evade accountability. There's a troubling trend of people believing that they can act in destructive ways without facing the consequences of their actions.

They craft a narrative in which they are the oppressed, the misunderstood, or the unloved—anything to avoid admitting that they were in the wrong. The email the ex-wife sent—despite her repeated acts of betrayal—is probably an attempt to manipulate the situation and possibly present herself as the aggrieved party.

It's as if she's saying, "Look at me; I'm still worthy of your attention, perhaps even your sympathy." It's a maddening dance around responsibility, a strategy to deflect blame and paint themselves as the real victims.

Damjan