Woman Refuses To Allow Niece To Use Money Meant For Her Senior Trip To Go See Her Deadbeat Dad, Redditors React

"I agreed to pay for a trip to Cancun, not for a meet and greet"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• June 11, 2023

A parent is referred to as a "deadbeat parent" when the court orders them to pay monthly child support, but they repeatedly fail to do so. "Deadbeat dads" and "deadbeat parents" are not interchangeable terms.

Not all non-custodial fathers are neglectfully delinquent on child support, and not all deadbeat parents are fathers. In fact, as you can see from many cases, a lot of mothers have court orders requiring them to pay child support yet consistently fail to do so. 

However, statistically speaking, more men than women are required to pay child support. Therefore, it makes statistical sense that more fathers than mothers would fall behind on child support payments.

OP's younger sister was involved with a horrible guy, John, throughout college and ended up getting pregnant with her niece, Sarah. The OP referred to John as the mascot for a deadbeat dad.

He wasn't there for any of the pregnancy, and OP's sister couldn't get any child support from him. The most unforgivable thing for the OP was when her sister got ill and ended up passing soon thereafter, but John never came to see her once in the hospital or went to the funeral.

Now her niece wants to go and visit her dad with the money the OP saved for her senior trip, but the OP wouldn't let it happen. Read the full story for yourself below.

The headline

OP shares how John was the mascot for a deadbeat dad as he wasn't there for any of the pregnancy

Everything was on track until OP found out that Sarah wanted to go and visit her dad

OP's just saying that she agreed to pay for a trip to Cancun, not for a meet and greet with the man

And the comments roll in...

The promise was for a trip to cancun

It's a little weird that the dad won't even visit

Trying to gauge whether there is a technical leg to stand on

It's up to her and her wallet if she wants to visit the dad

The OP is right to not want to contribute to this

This Redditor is betting the dad just wants the cash

The dad should pay for the trip if he wants his daughter around

The OP didn't have to pay for anything in the first place

She can pay for it herself and get a job

This isn't a situation where strings were attached

The deadbeat dad can pay to have her come for a visit

A gift can certainly have strings attached

Making a difference in the judgment

The dad should come and meet her instead

Reminding her that she can see him anytime in the future

There was a purpose behind the gift

This Redditor has a similar story to share

This Redditor recommends for the OP to be careful

OP's niece wants a father, but she lacks the life experience to know when someone is trying to be tough on purpose. She's probably never been subjected to this kind of deception before, so she's going to have a difficult time realizing that it's only her dad's responsibility for not seeing her.

The OP was given the not the AH verdict at the end.

Maryjane