Cheap Boyfriend Is Upset After Receiving The 'Quick And Simple' Food He Asked For Instead Of Something Nice

“It annoys me because we have money, we work hard for it and I have to settle for food that a student would eat.”

Ayoub

• Published in Interesting
• April 16, 2023

Financial compatibility is crucial in relationships. People need to be comfortable with how their partner manages their money and how it impacts the relationship as a whole.

Couples usually have shared financial goals that help them manage their money and save for the important things in life. Financial incompatibility means each person has different priorities, which usually leads to conflict.

Communication is a must, and couples should be able to talk openly about finances, including income, debt, and spending habits. This leaves no room for any misunderstandings or surprises that could potentially arise in the future. 

After all, each person has a different lifestyle. You can't impose yours on someone else and expect them to be okay with it.

A Redditor who goes by the username u/smokeywokeypokey made a post on the r/AmItheAhole subReddit where she explained how her boyfriend doesn't like to spend money on decent food because he is too paranoid about the cost of living crisis. The boyfriend recently got upset after the user made him one of his regular meals and ordered takeout for herself.

The user received a lot of mixed reactions from the r/AmItheAhole community. Scroll down to check out the full Reddit post, and scroll a little further to read the comments from the original post.

Here's the original post by Reddit user u/smokeywokeypokey:

OP's boyfriend is too paranoid about the cost of living crisis and doesn't like spending money on food.

OP doesn't like eating 'crappy food.'

OP doesn't like the food her boyfriend usually makes and usually has to alter it heavily.

The boyfriend likes it whenever OP uses 'nice ingredients' but is not interested in splitting the bill.

OP cooked for her boyfriend the usual meal he's used to and ordered takeaway.

The boyfriend got upset after what OP did, which made her doubt her actions.

OP thinks he might potentially be the a-hole for the following reason:

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to u/smokeywokeypokey's post:

OP's boyfriend is weaponizing his cheapness.

It was the only logical thing left to do.

“Your boyfriend sounds entitled in this situation.”

The boyfriend wants OP to take over his tasks without spending money.

OP could logically explain to her boyfriend that he has nothing to worry about.

“Finance compatibility is super important in a relationship.”

Each person gets to spend their money how they want to.

The boyfriend created this situation himself, and Op has nothing to do with it.

“He's happy to let you subsidize his budget and his free time.”

OP needs to be perfectly clear with her boyfriend.

He already said no, so he can't get mad about it.

Paying for the food and cooking is simply too much.

OP needs to sit down and have a talk with her boyfriend to let him know how she feels about the lifestyle he wants to impose on her. This problem won't fix itself and disappear if it's not properly addressed.

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