The OP explained her issue:
She said her husband listed how much he had spent on her birthdays over the past five years:
He told her that during the argument:
It made the OP feel cheap:
As a result, she doesn't want to spend her upcoming birthday with him:
She asks how to avoid him for the day:
She needs an excuse because she doesn't want to argue again:
A Reddit user asked an interesting question
It turns out this is not the only issue the couple have
Redditor listed some of their disagreements
Maybe the husband needed to defend himself
Total mutual misunderstanding
Sometimes, people tend to overreact and find reasons to argue. And it's also a problem with the couple.
Redditors said that they were acting childish. They also added that this wasn't their first issue.
It turns out they had many disagreements in the past; it's like they don't understand each other at all. Perhaps if they tried to please each other instead of looking for reasons to fight, their relationship would become better.
Hopefully, they will succeed in preserving their love and saving their marriage.