Teen Under Pressure To Change Prom Dress Because The Color Will Draw Attention Away From Classmate Who Is Getting Married After The Prom

"I told her no and her and her friends are being really mean and hostile towards me."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• April 27, 2023

Teen marriages are not uncommon, although the rate has declined in recent years. According to the Pew Research Center, in 2018, only 5 out of every 1,000 18-19-year-olds got married, down from 28 in 1990.

While some couples may choose to get married at a young age, there can be challenges that come with it, such as financial instability and limited life experience. In the midst of this trend, OP (17F) faces a dilemma.

She attends a small school where the high school graduation and prom are combined into one event, and she recently purchased a champagne-colored prom dress that is appropriate for the formal occasion. However, a couple from her grade recently got engaged and decided to get married the weekend after graduation.

The bride-to-be plans to wear white to prom and has requested that OP get a new dress as hers is too "bridal" and would detract attention from her. Despite the bride's request, OP has refused to buy a new dress, citing the cost and timing constraints.

She also loves the dress she has already bought. This refusal has caused the bride and her friends to be hostile towards OP, causing her to question if she is in the wrong.

OP asks:

OP bought a champagne-colored prom dress, but some people from school think she should change it

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

What does the wedding have anything to do with the prom?

"Her problem doesn't automatically become your problem"

The future bride and her friends need to grow up

Even if it were white, these two occasions are completely unrelated

"She's bogarting prom"

This is very probable

48% of those who marry before the age of 18 are likely to divorce within ten years, compared to 25% of those who marry after the age of 25.

60% of couples married between the age of 20 -25 will end in divorce.

It is a prom, and not her engagement party

"White is a really common color to wear for graduation."

Princess or diva?

"She called dibs on white dresses for every single unrelated event leading up to her wedding."

A graduation is about celebrating hard work, while a wedding is about celebrating love

Even if the prom itself were the wedding stage, she wouldn't have the right to choose what OP wears.

The teenage years are often a time of confusion and uncertainty. Adolescents are navigating many changes, including physical, emotional, and social.

It can be challenging to understand oneself and how to interact with others. This confusion can lead to overreacting and heightened emotions in response to what may seem like a small issue.

In the case of OP, it's possible that the bride-to-be and her friends are reacting strongly to the situation due to the stress and emotions surrounding their impending marriage. It's essential to approach conflicts with understanding and empathy, especially during the already turbulent teenage years.

OP is right here and the request for changing her dress is ridiculous.

Damjan