Redditor Asks If She Would Be An A**hole For Not Allowing Boyfriend's Nephew In Their Apartment Until He's Potty Trained

"Parents shouldn't expect other people to be okay with their kids peeing on their stuff."

Stephanie

• Published in Interesting
• January 20, 2024

Being able to afford a beautiful home is an achievement to be proud of. So, when Reddit user u/Cool_Pattern1549 secured a great job and was able to rent her dream apartment, she was understandably thrilled.

When she moved in, her boyfriend helped her decorate and decide on furniture. The OP made sure the apartment was furnished for two people so that he would always have the option to move in if he wanted to.

The OP says her boyfriend still has his apartment, but he has been staying with her for months at a time and most of his stuff is there already. He is planning to move in officially by the end of the year.

The OP says her boyfriend is very close with his older brother, so he invites him over often. Everyone gets along, and the brother's two-year-old son has even started calling the OP "Aunt."

But there is one thing that has become a problem for the OP. She explained that her boyfriend's nephew is currently potty training, and he frequently pees on the floors.

The Redditor says the little boy has already peed on the floor of her new apartment several times, and she is concerned about it possibly damaging the hardwood floors. After all, she is renting and doesn't want to get in any trouble.

The OP has been suggesting that she and her boyfriend go to visit his brother and family at their house rather than having them come to the apartment. But the Redditor's boyfriend still insists on inviting them over.

He says his brother and SIL always clean up after their little boy, but the OP is still concerned about being charged for damages when her lease ends. She likes her boyfriend's family and doesn't want to offend them, but the OP says she really doesn't want the little boy in her apartment until he's properly potty trained.

Now she's wondering if she would be an a**hole if she disallowed her boyfriend from inviting his nephew over for the time being.

The Redditor asked if she would be an a**hole for not allowing her boyfriend's nephew to visit their apartment.

The OP recently secured a great job and was able to rent her dream apartment.

When she moved in, her boyfriend helped her decorate and decide on furniture.

The couple stay at her place together most of the time.

The OP says her boyfriend still has his apartment, but he has been staying with her for months at a time and most of his stuff is there already.

The OP's boyfriend is very close with his older brother, so he invites him and his family over often.

But there is one thing that has become a problem for the OP.

The Redditor says the little boy has already peed on the floor of her new apartment several times, and she is concerned about it possibly damaging the hardwood floors.

The OP has been suggesting that she and her boyfriend go to visit his brother and family at their house rather than having them come to the apartment.

But the Redditor's boyfriend still insists on inviting them over.

He says his brother and SIL always clean up after their little boy.

But the OP is still concerned about being charged for damages when her lease ends.

She likes her boyfriend's family and doesn't want to offend them, but the OP says she really doesn't want the little boy in her apartment until he's properly potty trained.

Now she's wondering if she would be an a**hole if she disallowed her boyfriend from inviting his nephew over for the time being.

Here's how people reacted.

Sounds like he's not ready.

What about pull-ups?

"Urine can cause damage."

"This is a hill to die on."

"Parents shouldn't expect other people to be okay with their kids peeing on their stuff."

NTA.

What's your take on this situation? Do you think the OP is overreacting about the potential damages, or is it understandable that she would be concerned, considering she is renting the apartment?

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Stephanie