Redditors Pass Their Verdict On A Woman Who Wants To Give Up Her Nephew To A Foster Home

Death is a terrible thing, and it hits hard on the loved ones who are left behind.

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• May 7, 2022

When we lose any member of the family, and it happens that they have kids who now have no one to cater to, it can be twice as hard. On one hand, you are grieving your loss, and on the other hand, you’re looking after the young ones that the deceased left behind.

This is the situation that the Redditor in today’s story had to deal with. She went to the AITA subreddit community to share her story and seek the verdict of other Redditors, even though she knew she might be the a**hole here.

Well, according to the 32-year-old Redditor, she lost her brother years ago, and not so long ago, her SIL died in an accident. Both of them left their 12-year-old son behind, and the question now is, who is going to take care of the kid?

The OP’s parents are already in their late 70s and the OP is autistic, adding to the fact that she has no interest in having a family, plus she’s not good with kids. Now, the OP has been taking care of her nephew since the accident, and it hasn’t been easy for her.

The boy’s custody has not been decided yet, but if she were to decline, then the kid might be headed to a foster home. Read on to find out how the story unravels.

The headline

This may make me seem heartless

My SIL died in an accident

I've never been good around children

Ever since the accident...

My parents are elderly and...

This is not the best outcome but...

I haven't told him my decision

They'll distance themselves

I can't take care of him

And now to the much awaited question...

The post was upvoted 12.5K times and got more than 5K comments. Here are some of the verdicts passed by the redditors.

1. Have you actually talked to your parents?

2. The likelihood he'll be adopted is low

3. Some of the problems can be addressed

4. Teenagers are very rarely adopted and that's the fact

5. There is no correct answer for me

6. The alternative isn't always better

7. Yes, it will be tough but you need to...

8. Have any of these people offered any help

9. Lots of information needed and the OP supplied them

10. It won't be easy but you should step up

11. You have an unrealistic idea of what it's like

12. You've made up your mind already

13. One of the few posts that I'm stunned at

14. I'm not going to vote

15. Your parents should take care of him

16. Your choice is yours

17. It's really a hard case but...

18. There are always ways to accommodate yourself

19. Another Info needed and the OP replied

20. Not everyone is meant to be a parent

Here is an update the Redditor included after all was said and done.

Death is a terrible thing, and it hits hard on the loved ones who are left behind. Some Redditors understood the story from the OP’s angle, some were against her decision, and the rest were just on the fence.

What are your thoughts about this story? Drop your replies in the comments section below. 

Maryjane