Man Called Out By His Mother After Spending Mother's Day With His Wife

He spent the entire day with his wife and his mother shared that she had a terrible day.

Senad

• Published in Interesting
• May 21, 2023

Mother's Day can often be a tricky holiday to navigate, especially when juggling different family dynamics. Reddit users found themselves in a difficult situation when their attempt to prioritize their wife's special day inadvertently upset their mother.

OP, a married individual with two daughters, comes from a divorced family, as does their spouse. Both sets of parents have remarried, with the user's mother's second husband having passed away.

While the relationship with OP's father and stepmother is solid, their connection with their mother has experienced ups and downs due to various factors, such as challenging stepfathers, a troubled sibling, and unmet expectations.

With Mother's Day approaching, OP wanted to give their wife a day of relaxation and celebration. They offered to arrange either brunch or dinner and even planned to take their daughters to visit all of their grandparents, providing their wives with some precious alone time if desired.

The intention was to make the day about their wife without imposing a rigid plan or exerting any pressure.

OP and their daughters embarked on a morning trip to the store to gather supplies, preparing for a delightful brunch for their wife. They enjoyed their meal and spent quality time together. OP's wife then suggested that they could visit the grandparents, allowing her some personal space.

First, they visited OP's stepmother and wished her a happy Mother's Day. Next, OP called their mother, sensing a hint of annoyance in her tone. Nevertheless, they extended warm wishes and inquired about a potential visit.

Unfortunately, OP's mother had plans with her sister and would not be available until later when their eldest daughter had activities.

To OP's surprise, on the following day, their wife received a text from the user's mother. The message included a screenshot of a social media post made by the wife, expressing dissatisfaction with her day and stating that she didn't feel loved by anyone.

Reflecting on the events, OP questioned whether they were in the wrong for prioritizing their wife's day over doing something special for their mother.

OP has been married to his for 12 years and they both come from divorced families

OP has a great relationship with his father and step-mom but his relationship with his mother isn't as good

OP decided to focus this Mother's Day on his wife

They had some activities but it was in a relaxed atmosphere

OP called up his mother and step-mom to wish them a happy Mother's Day

OP's mom complained on social media that she had a terrible Mother's Day

He tried

She wasn't available

Is it fair to prioritize your wife?

The mother of your children

There is no definitive right or wrong in such situations. Each family has its own dynamics and sensitivities. It's important to acknowledge that OP made a genuine effort to prioritize their wife's well-being and give her a day of relaxation.

However, they may not have fully considered the impact their actions would have on their own mother's feelings. OP aimed to make their wife's day special, unintentionally causing hurt feelings for their own mother.

Senad