Man Hires Security To Barr His Dad And Other Unwanted Guests From Attending His Mother's Funeral, Causes A Rift Between The Families

"I can live a happy life having zero contact with them again"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• June 24, 2023

Experiencing a divorce can be challenging for a family. The parents are discovering new ways to parent their children as well as new ways to relate to one another.

The effects of divorce on children when parents separate, can differ. While some kids deal with divorce in a healthy and forgiving way, others may find it difficult.

Children can handle the divorce transition as an adjustment rather than a crisis since they are resilient. The impact of divorce on children also varies depending on the differences in the children involved (different temperaments, various ages). 

OP's parents divorced a decade ago, and according to the story, OP's father initiated it. He was seeing someone else and wanted to see if the grass was greener on the other side.

The OP isn't for or against this, but he was against how his dad treated his mother after they finalized their separation. OP's father promised his mother that he would still be around, still be in her life, even be friends, and see if they could rekindle their marriage, but only if she took every penny of debt.

OP's mother was naive to agree to it because, once the divorce was finalized, his father was on a plane in a matter of days. Now the OP's mom is dead, and he hired security to keep unwanted guests from attending, which caused a big issue. 

The headline

Once the divorce was finalized, OP's father was on a plane in a matter of days

The OP is not super close to those who were ejected from the funeral

The Reddit post went viral with more than 26k upvotes and over 2k comments. Here are some of the top comments below

One doesn't grieve someone they've spat in their face

She was the OP's mother and therefore his decision

This Redditor is in awe of the word used

The OP did well by hiring people

Doesn't sound like they were good family to begin with

Funerals are for the people who are grieving

It was made explicit that the OP didn't want his dad there

OP's father clearly does not have his priorities straight

OP's father did not respect his ex wife in her life

A discussion about karma

The OP's dad obviously sucks for his past mistakes

The funeral wasn't for the OP's dad, but for his mom

OP's dad should have known better than to assume everything will be cool

This redditor wants to know if the OP asked him not to attend

A man who misled his wife to get rid of his own debt

Would the OP's mom have wanted this too?

They are the ones who owe the OP an apology

The OP goes ahead to add an edit

And it continues...

As you've seen, this story brought a whole lot of conversation in the comments concerning karma. Some even dropped their own stories but still, a verdict has to be passed and the OP was declared not the AH.

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Maryjane