Woman Gives Her Daughter An Ultimatum To Choose Between Them Or Her Fiancé, Daughter Gives A Shocking Reply And The Internet Reacts

“This isn’t going to be tolerated by me or your father any longer.”

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• May 29, 2023

As a parent, it's hard to see your child drift away from you. Recently, a mom asked for advice on whether it was wrong for her to make her daughter choose between her family and her fiancé in a story posted on Reddit's Am I the A**hole community.

As usual, the plot is a little bit more complicated than the title suggests. The OP states that her daughter, who is only 19 years of age, is dating a 36-year-old man who she first met when she was barely 18 years old at a business conference of her dad's.

Since the daughter is allegedly no longer close to the family, the OP claims she doesn't want them together. The fiance appears to be hurrying up the relationship and showering the daughter with presents in the meantime.

According to the OP, the daughter declined his invitation to stay for Thanksgiving because they were going to this man's family cabin instead. OP became enraged at this point and urged her daughter to choose between the family and this man.

Now you won't believe what the OP's daughter told her to do. Well, I'll take a pause here and let you get the full story as you keep scrolling down.

What to do when your child chooses a partner 18 years older?

The OP tells her daughter that she must either chose them or her soon to be husband

OP's daughter only gives them bland replies which she knows he has indoctrinated her with

This man apparently showers the OP's girlfriend with materialistic gifts just so he can manipulate her into loving him

The OP invited her daughter and her partner over for Thanksgiving because they knew she wouldn’t come if he wasn't invited

“This isn’t going to be tolerated by me or your father any longer.”

So the OP wants to know if she's an AH

The comments poured in quickly, requesting additional details from the OP

A Redditor wanted to know why the OP's daughter cut off her other relatives as she is about to cut the OP off, too. The OP Capital_Wolf_4932 replied saying:

"That is the problem, i ask her and she just deflects or says “she has been busy”. She has been ignoring her own grandmother.”

The same Redditor also asked:

“INFO: how is this received by you and other family’s members that your teenage daughter is basically dating a sugar daddy twice her age? It seems like there is a lot of tension and disapproval which might be the cause of this escalating conflict. Please do clarify a little on the situation.”

The OP replied by saying:

“Well, all of her relatives know and think that there is an insurmountable power dynamic that makes it hard for us to believe she is truly “happy”. Which has led to a lot of tension (she doesn’t know of this tension as she cut off all of her relatives).”

This Redditor says the partner blinded her with money and gifts

This Redditor believes that this is a clear sign of abuse

As pointed out earlier, it hurts to see the child you've trained for 18 years drift away from you. The OP was hurt and just wanted her daughter back but apparently, many Redditors believe she has been blinded by the numerous gifts and money.

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Maryjane