Mom Of Three Wants Her Mother To Sleep On A Mattress During Her Visit, Mother Reminds Her She Is Still The Legal Owner Of The House

"Ask your daughter if the children will each have their own rooms in their new house."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• October 3, 2023

A 54-year-old mom sold her house to her daughter when she moved to another city. Technically, her daughter still isn't the owner of OP's house.

At that time, OP's daughter had just given birth to her son. She and her husband couldn't afford a downpayment or mortgage on any house.

She and OP came up with a unique agreement. Her daughter has 15 years to pay off the 4-bedroom, 2-bathroom house in installments.

She will get the title to the house once the payments are done. In exchange, OP can use a guest room twice a year for two to three days, even when her daughter and her family are not home.

The contract was signed because OP's daughter knew they couldn't find a deal like this elsewhere. OP's twice-a-year visits always fall on the same dates: her aunt and mother's birthdays and a city-wide event OP loves.

OP made sure that she was on her best behavior during her visits. She tries not to disturb her daughter's day-to-day.

Hotels are too expensive in their city because it is a tourist region. Their arrangement worked without a hitch for a few years.

Her daughter's family has since grown. OP has two more grandchildren, a 4-year-old boy, and a two-year-old girl.

During a recent phone call with her daughter, OP was informed that they had no room for her to use during her upcoming visits

All three kids insisted on having their own rooms. Her daughter said, OP can either stay at a hotel or she could sleep on a mattress.

OP's daughter said it wouldn't be fair to ask her eldest, who is 6 years old, to sleep on a mattress in his own room.

OP asked her daughter if she would pay for OP's hotel room if she couldn't accommodate her in the house

Her daughter said no and asked OP to adapt to the changes. OP reminded her daughter that she technically still owns the house and that she was bound by an agreement to accommodate OP during these visits.

Redditors appalled that OP's daughter even considered making her sleep on the floor when her two younger kids can share a bed with no issues

Her kids are small enough to share a bed for two days. Her youngest can even sleep with the parents in the main bedroom.

I doubt if OP's grandkids would even mind camping in the living room or sharing one bedroom for a few days

OP was right to remind her of the contract she signed

She agreed to host OP twice a year for three days. Or, like OP suggested, she can pay for OP's hotel room.

OP brought up the contract as a last resort. Her daughter was trying to break their agreement, so OP had to remind her of the terms.

OP literally helped them out when they needed it most. What she asked for in return is minimal at best when she could have sold her house to anyone else for a profit.

OP's situation is a good reminded that for some families, it's a terrible idea to mix business with relationships

OP didn't post any update how their issue was resolved

Redditors voted that she wasn't the a**hole. They couldn't wrap their heads around the daughter's treatment of OP.

OP didn't have to sell her house to her daughter. She would have had a buyer for her house if she wanted to make a profit.

OP did what she did to help her daughter. The generous terms in their contract prove that — there has to be a resolution to their disagreement without it permanently damaging their relationship.

Chelsi