Mother Abandoned Daughter At Age 5 And Wants To Reconnect 16 Years Later, But The Girl Rejects Her Attempts

This is a pretty sad situation so we really don't blame OP for the way she responded to this.

Daphnie

• Published in Interesting
• August 23, 2023

We're back again today with another awesome AITA thread post from Reddit where people come to get unbiased opinions and advice from people who don't know them. Sometimes it's just better to talk to people on the internet and get a real opinion on how they behaved, rather than ask those around you who might have a biased opinion.

This thread is one that we often go over because people usually have so much to say in the comments about it. With this being said, we are diving into a post today that was submitted by a girl who wants to know if she's wrong for not allowing her mother back into her life.

Her mom left her when she was 5, and it's been 16 years now, but she's back to "be a mother" now. OP isn't excited, and she feels like the mom can't come back now after all this time and just expect things to be okay and like normal.

She doesn't want to allow her back into her life, but if you're interested in hearing more about the story and seeing the full post then keep on reading as we give you the post and all the best comments on it as well.

OP's post was pretty straightforward and she started by explaining her situation with her mom and how she left.

This is when she goes into the details of what happened and what they said about everything after she left.

I'm still stuck on how 5 years later she wasn't ready to be a mother but had been one for 5 years.

I wouldn't trust her either because she doesn't know her and her mom doesn't know OP.

This was definitely the problem on her part because she should have known that she may not have been as open to this.

People do agree that OP is NTA and that she has a right to feel any type of way about this situation.

These emotions are absolutely normal and we feel like OP definitely has a right to feel this way after everything.

Nobody is owed forgiveness really puts things into perspective because she's absolutely not owed that.

This is probably exactly why she came back now and not at the time she did, which is not okay at all.

We're not sure what the mom was expecting because she couldn't have expected her to come with open arms.

Abandonment is real and it's a very hard thing to deal with especially when you can remember everything and they come back 16 years later.

She is doing this for herself and it's not okay at all; it's selfish.

This situation is really sad because it seems like the mom is coming back for selfish reasons, and overall, she can't expect her kids to be there with open arms. Overall, OP is NTA because her feelings are definitely valid, and dealing with it is extremely hard, especially as a kid.

What do you think?

Daphnie