Redditor Asks If She Would Be An A**hole For Sending Her Mom An Invoice For All The Money She Owes Her

"Cut her off and wash your hands of the situation."

Stephanie

• Published in Interesting
• October 10, 2023

It's usually a pretty good policy not to lend money to family members. Mostly because it's so easy to allow the people we love the most to take advantage of us.

Reddit user u/Queeniegme knows this all too well, and she shared her story in the r/AITA (Am I The A**hole?) subreddit. She explained that she is 19 and has been living alone for a year now.

The OP says she moved out of her mom's house right after she turned 18 because her living situation at home wasn't a good one. There was her mother, stepfather, and their two children living there, and the OP felt like she didn't belong.

When the OP was 15, she was expected to pay for most of her expenses herself. So, when she turned 16, she started working for her boyfriend's mother to earn some money.

The OP was able to save a decent amount of money to start her life, but it didn't take long for her mother to see it as an opportunity to "borrow" money from her. In fact, the Redditor says that over the years, there have been times when she has been expected to support the entire family financially.

The OP was happy to help because she didn't want her sisters to go without, but when her mother started borrowing money for things like eyelash extensions and an Apple watch, it became a bit much. Now that the OP is living on her own, she has told her mother she can no longer lend her money.

As a result, the OP's mom has cut her off completely. The Redditor says her mother still owes her $550, as well as the money for her Apple watch, which her mom has now sold.

Now, the OP is wondering if it would be unreasonable for her to send her mother an invoice outlining everything she owes her. Keep scrolling to see how people reacted.

The Redditor asked if she would be an a**hole for sending her mom an invoice for all the money she owes her.

She explained that she is 19 and has been living alone for about a year now.

When the OP was 15, she was already paying for most of her own expenses.

The OP started to work for her boyfriend's mom sometimes when she was 16.

The OP's mom started taking every opportunity to get money from her.

The OP has had to cover her whole family's expenses at times.

Some of the money her mom borrowed was for trivial things.

Now that the OP is refusing to lend her mom anymore money, she has cut her off completely.

The OP later found out her mom was also borrowing money from other family members.

The OP has been wondering about sending her mom all the information on how much she still owes her.

Now the OP is wondering if she'd be an a**hole if she sent her parents an invoice.

Here's how people reacted.

"You're not going to get it."

Tell your family.

"Prepare yourself to be ignored or insulted."

"She won't pay it."

"Stop loaning her money."

"Cut her off and wash your hands of the situation."

Just move on.

This is why you don't lend money to family.

"She feels guilty so she's avoiding you."

What are your thoughts on this situation? Do you think the OP should send her mom an invoice, or do you think it would it be a waste of her time?

We would love to hear your opinions on this topic. You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section.

Stephanie