Reddit Schools A Childish Man About Owning Up To Your Mistakes After He Refused To Return His Friend's Wallet When He Accidentally Grabbed It

This sentence sums him up nicely, "I accept the judgement (albeit a little ungracefully)."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• April 30, 2023

Posting on the Am I The A**hole subreddit to ask for judgment can be a good thing. It is not advisable to go on that subreddit if you are the type of person who refuses to take responsibility for their actions.

Let's look into this story as an example. OP has a friend who happens to own a similar wallet as him, and OP mistakenly took his friend's wallet home one night.

OP was already home when he got a call from his friend, Adam, who was looking for his wallet. OP immediately checked his pocket and found Adam's missing wallet.

He apologized and promised to swing by the following day to give the wallet back. Adam said he needed the wallet right away since he had other plans that night, and he works early.

OP informed Adam that it was raining and it was too late to return the wallet anyway. Adam said he didn't care and that OP needed to give his wallet back because it was his property.

Adam warned OP that he wouldn't be invited back to his house again if he didn't make things right. OP agreed to that and told Adam to get the wallet himself if he needed it immediately.

OP reiterated that Adam can just wait the following day for his wallet

20 minutes later, Adam showed up to get the wallet from OP

OP gave him $20 for his transpo and he doesn't think they are friends anymore

OP clarified how heavily it was raining that night in Florida

OP has to realize that the initial mistake was for his to correct, what his friend said was irrelevant

The wallet probably had important cards and IDs in it but OP was too lazy to give them back

There is no doubt that his former friend talked about the wallet incident to some of their common acquaintances

He even had the time to comment and reply to double down on his stance that he did nothing wrong

A commenter said this isn't how friendships work and the way Adam talked to OP is not an appropriate approach between friends

If your friends refuse to be accountable for their mistakes then you need better friends

If OP expected sympathy from this subreddit then he was sorely mistaken

OP had a list of excuses to go through. "But I have to be up early tomorrow," "but it's raining," "but you didn't use angelic words!" "But it's your fault!"

If this happened to me and a friend, this is how it would go down to be honest

You already inconvenienced your friend by taking their wallet, you shouldn't inconvenience them further to clean up your mess

It looks like their friendship was tethering on a cliff and this was the moment that decided its future

OP will be posting on another subreddit asking why he winds up being friends with toxic people without realizing that he's the problem friend

OP should have looked for another way when it became obvious his friend was not willing to compromise since the fault is really his

"The buck stops somewhere else, not here" is OP's motto

OP has such a mature way of handling things /s

Even when OP is admitting to his mistake, he sounds childish. Someone friend him up before other people take this golden opportunity away!

OP's reluctant acceptance of his mistake is not convincing because he is still making an excuse

OP's reasoning basically is his taking the wallet by mistake is negligible because his friend didn't use kind words to communicate with him. He should have left his finger-pointing behavior back in junior high because this is so childish!

Adam will have a better time without OP dragging him down. Let's all leave OP to his sulking because he won't be taking the subreddit's a**hole judgment down without a tantrum.

Chelsi