Worried Lady Asks Fiance To Leave The Military If He Really Wants To Marry Her, Gets Called An AH

"He cannot stay in the military forever if we're planning a future"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• October 21, 2023

Have you attended a military wedding before? Do you just sit and imagine what the wife might be thinking whenever her husband is deployed?

Have you tried putting yourself in her shoes? Well, many people dread when their pets go run off, so imagine when your partner is off to God knows where, and you aren't even sure he'll make it back.

Some people can't leave with such separation, so they tend to avoid dating a military person, but can you really blame them? The OP just finished school, and her boyfriend has been serving in the military for years.

He actually studied economics and finance abroad, and they have been together for two years now. Her boyfriend’s family owns their own company, and they are very well off.

They have always wanted OP's boyfriend to take over, but he chose to serve in the military. OP reveals that she's always struggling whenever he goes on a mission. There were millions of questions in her head all the time, but she said yes when her boyfriend proposed to her.

When they started talking about marriage expectations, OP asked if he would be willing to leave the military. She tried explaining why, but he straight up said that she was an AH for even asking.

Now, the OP can't help but wonder if she went too far with her request. She brought her story to the Reddit community, so check it out as you scroll down.

OP writes

OP's always wondering if he's going to come back in one piece or why he hasn't called or texted back

Whenever he leaves through that door to go on a mission, only God knows when or if he will ever return

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

I 25F said yes to my bf proposal. My bf has been serving the military for 7 years and I asked him to leave and take over the family business if we want to get married because I am scared for him to be in military. So AITA for asking my bf to leave his job that he loves so much?

The Reddit post got more than a thousand comments and here are a bunch of them

The OP shouldn't have started the relationship in the first place

The OP knew he was there from the very start

She's the AH for wanting him to leave

This conversation should have taken place already

This is what they signed up for

A deal breaker for the OP

That is not you

It's possible that OP was first unaware of her incapacity to handle being a military spouse but she does now, and she is stating her demands clearly. It's also reasonable that her partner doesn't want to leave the military.

They are debating whether or not to be married, and it's possible that the answer is no. Some Redditors believe that doesn't make either person a bad person but some still say she's the AH.

Maryjane