Mother-In-Law Temporarily Moves In With Her Son And His Wife And Begins Testing Boundaries By Napping In Their Bedroom

What in the Oedipus is going on in this house?

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• July 29, 2022

Living with your in-laws is nobody's dream especially if your in-laws can't understand what boundaries mean. OP had to navigate a situation like this recently when her mother-in-law (MIL) moved into their house.

Her mother-in-law is staying temporarily while her house is under renovation. The moment they learned about the move, OP and her husband began readying the room where MIL will be staying.

She has a room all to herself furnished with everything she needed to be comfortable. She loved all the effort OP and her husband put into the room when she got settled in.

When OP got home from work, she found her MIL sleeping in their bedroom. OP got confused but MIL explained that she took a nap and lost track of time.

MIL has since begun hinting at how much she loved napping in her son's and his wife's marital bed. She's heavily implying wanting to nap in their bedroom from then on.

OP ignored all of her MIL's heavy-handed hints. Her husband brought the subject up and said his mom got used to napping on their bed.

Apparently, she said she loved napping there in the afternoon and OP's husband said they should just let her. OP said she wouldn't allow such a thing and an argument ensued.

OP said her MIL was being ridiculous because she has a whole room upstairs where she can nap just as peacefully

OP's husband got upset and accused OP of making his mom uncomfortable and unwelcome with her attitude. He said that by saying no, OP was being mean and selfish by preventing his mom from being comfortable at his house.

OP reminded him that she pays the full mortgage for their house while he spends his money on gadgets and consoles. He said OP was bringing up past disagreements in this new conflict to use against him.

OP put her foot down and told her husband to stop arguing. She said she needed the room to rest because she is on her feet all day from her 6 AM job.

Her husband has since stopped talking to her until OP agrees to let his mom nap in their room. He also said OP is being an a**hole for choosing to die on this hill.

OP asks if she's being difficult. The whole story can be read below:

Does MIL prefer the downstairs bedroom?

Well, not really

Why does she even need to mark her territory?

Does MIL have mobility issues that limits her from using the stairs?

Apparently, it's just a preference issue

Maybe her bed at the guest room is uncomfortable?

If it was, OP's MIL never alluded to it

Not that we got the logistics out of the way; MIL's need to sleep on her son's marital bed is just weird.

It may be crude but the clutching of pearls ended when she slept on their bed

See? Parents can understand boundaries.

MIL's actions is more common than we think and let's hope it stops

An astute commenter hypothesized that OP's MIL problem is really a husband problem

OP's husband is being immature and some external professional help is necessary in this marriage

OP should stand her ground and refuse to let her husband and his mom get their way

OP is the homeowner but she's the only one being coerced into making a compromise

If OP is willing to be as unreasonable as this mother & son duo, this suggestion is a good place to start

It's very weird that OP's MIL is not only comfortable sleeping in her son's marital bed, but she is also actually enjoying it. We shudder to think what she dreams about when she naps in OP's bed.

OP's husband needs to grow a spine and learn how to set boundaries from his mom instead of manipulating OP into giving in to whatever MIL wants. MIL has two options: nap in her guest bedroom or get out of OP's house, either way, OP wins.

Chelsi