Mother-In-Law Pesters Pregnant Daughter-In-Law To Share Baby's Gender Before The Gender Reveal Party

Her daughter-in-law didn't even know the gender, but she got tired of her relentless questions

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• May 25, 2023

Gender reveals are so on trend these days! People still debate how appropriate they are after so many gender reveal parties went awry.

This couple didn't opt for the potentially environmentally disastrous gender reveal party like some expecting parents do. They chose a more traditional colored cake to share the gender of their baby with their loved ones.

OP was actually opposed to having a party initially, but she caved in after her husband's family made a big deal. OP's mother-in-law wanted to be ahead of everyone else and tried to convince OP to include her in the secret.

OP actually didn't know what her baby's gender was and told her mother-in-law. She didn't believe OP and pestered her for more than a month to share the baby's gender.

She begged OP and even swore not to tell anybody else. OP texted her that the baby was a girl.

She didn't technically lie because she didn't know the gender of the baby. Besides, her mother-in-law has a 50% chance of having a granddaughter.

There was an awkward silence on the day of the party when they cut the cake and revealed that it was blue inside. Grandma is about to have a grandson, and she is not happy about it.

It turns out, she told everyone in her family that OP is having a boy. They all bought boy-themed toys and items.

OP's MIL hissed at her for making her look like a fool. OP reminded her of her promise which mother-in-law denied ever making.

OP showed her their text exchange. She was proved to be a liar in front of the entire party.

OP will probably apologize eventually to avoid drama like her husband wants to. However, she doesn't think she did anything wrong to embarrass her mother-in-law.

If OP really feels like apologizing, she can't go wrong with this one

She can also apologize by phrasing it this way

But to really deliver a strong message, we highly recommend this last option

However, choosing the high road is overrated and OP can meet her mother-in-law at her own level

Not apologizing to the person who wronged you is also a great option for OP

Unless OP wants to spend her life catering to her mother-in-law and protecting her feelings, she shouldn't apologize

She did nothing wrong. She was pestered relentlessly for information she didn't have. She had to placate an angry mother-in-law at a party that was meant for her and her baby.

OP's husband has a lot of growing up to do before their baby gets here

He can start by growing a shiny new spine. It would be good for him and his marriage in the long run.

The color of the baby things shouldn't even matter anyway

Being in on the secret made mother-in-law feel special and important. Her feelings were hurt when she was faced by the fact that she isn't.

I wouldn't apologize if I were in OP's place. She did nothing wrong, she was forced to tell her mother-in-law something after a month of relentless nagging.

OP should tell her husband that she will not be apologizing to his mother. If he insists, OP has a few phrases from the comments she can choose from.

Chelsi