Mother-In-Law Makes It Hard For Cat Mom To Take Care Of Her Recovering Husband, Gets Called Out For Crossing The Line

"I feel like she was using the pets as an excuse"

Maryjane

• Published in Animal Stories
• July 8, 2024

While nobody likes being sick, everyone experiences it occasionally. Occasionally, it's a simple cold or stomach virus that goes away in a few days; other times, it's a fractured bone or the aftermath of surgery that takes weeks or months to heal.

Sometimes it's a far more serious condition with long-term implications, either mental or bodily. It's never easy to deal with illness in a marriage, no matter what the circumstances.

When your partner becomes ill, it presents a chance for a little more help in your marriage. This selflessness has the magical ability to draw you closer than you may have felt in a long time.

But what happens when your mother-in-law is bridging you into caring for your spouse? Well, that is what we see in today's story, and the OP just had to bring it to the Reddit community.

The OP has been married for four and a half years, and her husband had minor surgery on his nose. They agreed that after the surgery, they would stay at her mother-in-law‘s house because it’s close to the hospital.

While OP's husband was under anesthesia, her mother-in-law revealed to the doctor that OP had pets and that it would be better for her son to spend more days at her house. This posed a threat to the OP as her MIL made sure she was the one taking care of her son. 

The OP writes

It would be better to prevent any pet fur from getting in the wound

He spent the night at her mother-in-law’s house while the OP came back home

Turns out the wound wasn’t being cleaned well enough

OP feels like her MIL was using the pets as an excuse

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

Being upset with my mil 2. Because she may just be being caring for her son.

And the comments roll in...

Most men can be wimps

The OP should talk to her husband

Misunderstandings should be avoided

The OP left this update later on

He was alert and his usual self so we talked. I shared what happened while he was under and shortly after his surgery. He apologised that his mom manipulated the situation and that he couldn’t step in. He said if he ever had another surgery (hopefully not) we would go straight home after and he would be firm with his mother and the doctor/hospital about what he wanted before going under. I’m going to pick him up this morning.

And the comments continues...

His mom has to take other things into consideration

Having him set her straight

To give a little background, the OP revealed that when her husband looks down at the phone, the drainage from his nose hurts and makes him dizzy. Also, his throat is sore from being intubated during the surgery as a drainage went down his throat because they went in through the top portion of his mouth to get to his nose.

All this considered, Redditors declared the OP not the AH as she is supposed to be the primary caregiver but her MIL is making it impossible.

Maryjane