Bride's Future MIL Says She Needs To Approve Of Her Choice Of Bridesmaids

"It will set the tone for your whole marriage."

Stephanie

• Published in Interesting
• October 15, 2023

Planning a wedding can be very stressful, even under the most ideal circumstances. But when there is a disagreement or dispute, the situation becomes much more complicated.

Reddit user u/harrystyl3sfourthnip shared her story in the r/JUSTNOMIL subreddit. She explained that she had chosen her sister and three other friends to be her bridesmaids in her upcoming wedding.

Her fiancee had also chosen his four groomsmen, some of whom were married. The OP was told by her future MIL that if any of the groomsmen were engaged or married, they would need to be paired with their significant others.

She reasoned that they might cheat on their wives or fiancees if they were partnered with strangers. She said it didn't matter that the OP's bridesmaids were all in happy relationships, as they "might not be able to control themselves."

The OP put her foot down and said she wanted her friends and family by her side, not a bunch of strangers chosen by her MIL. But then the family retaliated, calling the OP "controlling" and saying that she wasn't "honoring their marriages."

The OP's fiancee blames his mother's religious beliefs for her behavior and says it's just how she is. But the OP is seriously questioning if she should be marrying into this family.

She says his mother has always been controlling, and it has become exhausting. The OP dreads having to spend time with her MIL, and it causes her anxiety.

But the OP says there's no way she's going to allow her MIL to ruin her wedding with her controlling behavior. Keep scrolling to see how people reacted.

1. The Redditor shared a story about her MIL needing to approve of her bridesmaids.

2. She explained that her wedding was going to be delayed because of this.

3. The OP's MIL told her that if any of the groomsmen were married or engaged, their wife or fiancee would need to be chosen as a bridesmaid.

4. But the Redditor said she didn't want strangers as her bridesmaids.

5. She also told her MIL that if she doesn't think her nephews will be loyal to their wives, maybe they shouldn't have gotten married.

6. The OP's fiancee blamed his mother's behavior on her religious beliefs.

7. The OP said she was questioning if it was worth marrying into the family.

8. The Redditor said that the thought of seeing her MIL caused her anxiety.

9. The OP says there is no way she will let her MIL have any input in her wedding.

10. Here's how people reacted.

11. "Turn the tables on her."

12. "When you get married, you also marry the family."

13. "You SO needs to shut his mother down."

14. "Problem solved."

15. It's not an acceptable response!

16. "Life is short, and this level of insanity isn't worth it."

17. It's "just how I am."

18. "I'm glad you are pushing back."

19. "It will only get worse."

20. Here's an idea.

21. Hopefully the groomsmen aren't a**holes.

22. Wait til the kids come along.

What are your thoughts on this situation? Do you think the OP should do what her MIL asks to keep the peace, or is her MIL out of line for trying to control the wedding?

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Stephanie