Intrusive MIL Gets Kicked Out Of The Hospital For Wanting To Change Her Grandson's Name Without His Parents' Permission

"She asked the nurses if she could legally change his name."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• November 24, 2023

An intrusive mother-in-law constantly oversteps boundaries and inserts herself into personal decisions and family matters where her input is neither desired nor appreciated. This type of behavior can manifest in various ways, from unrequested advice on parenting to household management.

A Reddit user recently shared a story about her intrusive MIL. The OP is a 29-year-old woman.

Having recently experienced the joy of childbirth, she found herself in a challenging situation with her MIL. The OP and her 32-year-old husband chose to name their son after the OP's late father.

In a gesture of familial honor, they included a middle name after the husband's grandfather, symbolizing the intertwining of their family legacies. However, this decision was met with unrequested criticism from MIL.

On the day of the OP's delivery, a day that was supposed to be private for the OP and her husband, the MIL burst into the hospital room. She bombarded them with her views on the baby's name, feeding schedules, and other aspects of child-rearing.

The OP thought that was the worst scenario from her MIL, but the situation escalated after the birth of the child. As the MIL wasn't satisfied with the chosen name, she tried to force her son into convincing his wife to change it.

Then she asked the nursing staff about the legalities of changing the baby's name herself without the parents' permission. MIL even accused the OP of manipulating her husband into agreeing to the baby's name.

Pushed to her limits, the OP asked her MIL to leave the hospital room, saying they had no intention to change the baby's name. However, it resulted in the MIL telling a different story to the family.

Consequently, the OP has been facing a backlash from her in-laws, with demands to apologize for her behavior. The OP's husband supports her.

He even warned his mother that they would cut her off if she continued to interfere. But MIL's angry messages make the OP wonder if she was in the wrong.

The OP asks:

The OP and her husband chose a name for their newborn son:

She explained her MIL is very intrusive:

And she didn't like the name, so she did her best to change it:

It upset the OP, and she told her to leave:

The OP's husband supports her, but the family doesn't:

So, the OP wonders if she was in the wrong:

The OP should directly tell her to back off

A Redditor agreed with previous advice but added the OP's husband should do it

One redditor was suspicious of how MIL found out the OP was in labor

This is probably just the beginning

MIL doesn't have the right to name the OP's children

It really is shocking

"She has decided that if she can't be happy, then nobody can"

Redditors told the OP that she was not in the wrong for kicking her MIL out of her hospital room. The MIL's behavior is really too much to handle, but the OP should let her husband talk with her.

She shouldn't bother herself with such an intrusive and manipulative woman at the moment.

Filip