Lady Wants To Know If She'll Be AH For Not Inviting Brother To Her Wedding After He Said Some Horrible Words

"Dad was depressed, and mum never forgave herself"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• February 15, 2024

Strong emotions, words, and behaviors between siblings are normal. Also, sibling arguments and fights are common too as it teaches kids how to solve issues and provides coping mechanisms for when they encounter conflict in the future.

Children also use sibling rivalry to figure out where they fit in the household. The ability of a child to control their emotions, particularly their anger and frustration, is greatly influenced by their temperament and personality.

Some kids have trouble controlling their rage, which might make their siblings act out. But when young children get older and get more tolerance and social skills, there is typically a decrease in fighting amongst them.

The OP and one of her brothers get along really well now that they are grown up and speak to each other nearly every week. On the other hand, OP and her eldest brother, Patrick, don’t get along so well.

Years ago, there was a huge family argument involving OP's mom and dad and Patrick and his wife. It ended badly as they stopped their children from seeing OP's parents.

OP's dad was depressed, and her mom never forgave herself. The OP took matters into her own hands by confronting Patrick and his wife, but the response she got from them was what she never expected.

Keep scrolling down to read the entire story in the OP's own words.

The OP writes

Here's the story proper...

The OP knows a scene will be made

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

WIBTA for not inviting my brother to my wedding? It would solidify that I don’t want anything to do with her But would cause more anguish for family

And the comments roll in...

The OP gets to decide

There's no wedding for him to attend

Dead people disend wedding invitations

Later on, the OP dropped this edit

Patrick’s wife unfortunately had to rush to another country due to a death in her family. They dropped the kids off at my mum and dad’s for 3 weeks. That takes its toll on children. They missed their parents and there was minimal contact during this time.

This happened during Covid and my dad was isolating due to a health condition. When they came back, they thanked other family members for everything they did - but not my parents.

They proceeded to pick up the kids and throw a party to celebrate my SIL family members life at home with 35 people. My dad couldn’t go and they saw this as a betrayal

It's the OP's day

He isn't missing the OP

So good all round

This is the reality

The OP is dead to him

Certain siblings will always get along, while others will have years of good relations followed by years of bad. Nonetheless, several siblings may never truly enjoy or get along with one another due to differences in their personalities, temperaments, and other factors.

OP's brother seems to be part of the latter, and Redditors advised the OP to stand her ground as her wedding is not a reconciliation center. She was declared not the AH, and that's a wrap.

Maryjane