Redditor Puts Her Foot Down When Husband Tells Her To Stop Working On Her Project And Make Lunch

The couple got into an argument because the husband wanted lunch while she was working.

Senad

• Published in Interesting
• January 21, 2023

When it comes to married couples and the distribution of house chores, it can often be a delicate and sensitive topic. Many couples find themselves in a constant battle over who is responsible for what and who is doing more than their fair share.

However, couples need to remember that a healthy and happy marriage is built on mutual respect and teamwork. It is also essential for a couple to have open and honest communication about their expectations and responsibilities regarding house chores.

This can include setting clear and realistic goals for completing tasks and regularly checking in with each other to ensure that everything is running smoothly. By working together as a team and approaching the distribution of house chores with a positive and cooperative attitude, couples can minimize the potential for conflict and create a more harmonious and fulfilling home life.

OP is a 29-year-old woman struggling with her husband's lack of participation in household chores. OP's childhood experiences with her parents, where her mother did the majority of the work, have made her determined not to fall into the same pattern in her marriage.

However, despite her initial efforts, her husband, Tom, has gradually begun to slack off and now expects her to do the majority of the household tasks. This dynamic stopped when Tom brought his daughter, Anna, over for the weekend and expected the narrator to make lunch while she was working on an important project.

When she refused, her husband became argumentative, and OP lost her temper, telling him that he needed to start pulling his weight. The husband yelled at her that cooking is her job and OP retreated by apologizing to him and telling him that she would make lunch after finishing a small portion of the project.

OP decided to share this story on Reddit to see if she did the wrong thing by not making lunch for her husband and his daughter. Be sure to scroll down and read the full story, accompanied by the comments left by other Redditors on this thread.

OP lives with her husband, who has a 5-year-old daughter named Anna

OP's parents were both high-earners, but her mom was the one who would the majority of the house chores

OP promised to herself that she wouldn't end up in the same situation as her mother, but she noticed that she's gradually getting there

Her husband brought his daughter over the weekend while OP had to work on an important project

Her husband was playing videogames while she worked, and would nag her about making lunch

She snapped, and told him that he can go make lunch himself

She ended up apologizing and saying that she'll make lunch later

Enabling his behavior

Nip it in the bud

Pouting like a child

It's important for partners to express their needs and concerns and for both of them to come to a compromise. If one partner is feeling overwhelmed or taken advantage of, they need to speak up and express their feelings.

It's clear that the people of Reddit took OP's side in this, so now we want to hear what you have to say.

Senad