Woman Faces Family's Guilt-Trip For Legally Changing Her Name Due To Mother's Use Of Her Old Name For Prostitution

"Get a new name. Get a new family. "

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• July 20, 2023

There are personal decisions you have to make sometimes that you'll know will lead to greater things. An example would be legally changing your name, like how a Redditor did as she narrated what happened in a r/AITA post.

Legally changing your name is a step to detach yourself from things like horrible situations that are attached to that name. It can also simply be a way to bring you emotional peace as you start with a clean slate.

It was exactly what OP was hoping for in her story, but her family was opposed to it, and they tried to make her feel guilty when they told her what they thought. It started when she was already in the process of having her name legally changed.

OP didn't have a good childhood and upbringing because of her parents. She was even homeless at one point, and none of her family members took her in.

Her mother then kept using her name when she did something inappropriate like prostitution. This came across as a future problem since OP wanted to keep a good image with her career.

When OP went to a family gathering, she was confronted about her name, telling her she shouldn't have changed it at all. They showed their dislike even if what they only know is her current nickname.

OP stated that they are aware of how her mom uses her name for the said inappropriate activities. She also said she only went to the gathering for her sick aunt, who has always been kind to her.

This is OP's story

OP had a rough upbringing and her family didn't care as much as they should

OP's family were very opposed to the change she made

She received a lot of support from Redditors and explained more about her situation

A clean slate for OP to fill with her future success

And with that new name maybe OP would meet people who would appreciate her

In the first place, the name belongs to her

They might've been speechless if OP were to say this

It was clear whose side they were on

The way OP's family is opposed with her decision may be taken lightly now but it could be troublesome in the future

A Redditor shared their story about changing names as well

They advised OP about how she could handle the process of legally changing her name

Have all the copies of proof safely stored

And although OP's post was disheartening, a lot showed their support

The intention of OP with her name change was her business as well

Redditors have shared their experiences when it came to legally changing their names. They encouraged OP that her decision was something that shouldn't be messed with by family members who were indifferent to her.

With these opinions, OP was voted as NTA in this story. They comforted OP, telling her that she had nothing to be guilty about and her name is definitely hers to do with as she pleases.

Chelsi