Redditor Left Her Fiancé Via Note Because She Can't Take Care Of Him - When She's The One Who Needs The Care

"I was exhausted in every possible aspect, and falling out of love with him gradually happened"

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• December 27, 2023

Most people say that breaking an engagement is easy, but only a few acknowledge the deep emotional turmoil that accompanies it. Healing from such a rupture involves not just dealing with the end of a relationship but also grieving the plans and dreams that were built around it.

This process is intensely personal. It can be a labyrinth of emotions, but also a release from toxic emotions and the wrong relationship, just like in this story. The OP, a 29-year-old woman, recently made the difficult decision to leave her 34-year-old fiancé.

This process involved a three-hour effort to pack her belongings, transport them with the help of a friend to another friend's place, and ensure her dog and cat were with her. The urgency of her departure was partly due to a distressing discovery.

While bathing her dog, she noticed the dog had sustained a cut, which alarmed her greatly. This incident came on the heels of a traumatic miscarriage, boosting her fear of loss.

The OP's fiancé had recently quit a well-paying job due to a misunderstanding. It happened because he left for a fire call without notifying a manager, and the OP was out of town coping with her miscarriage.

During this challenging period, she found little support from her fiancé. Despite these complications, the OP attempted to reconcile and returned to live with him, only to find herself burdened with all the household expenses.

Her job did not pay as well as her fiancé's previous one. She asked him to contribute financially multiple times, even if it meant taking a low-paying job, but he failed to follow through.

The OP's emotional exhaustion and gradual loss of love for her fiancé reached a tipping point when she felt he showed indifference toward her dog's injury. This apathy led her to snap, deciding to leave him and conveying her decision through a note.

So, the OP wonders if she was in the wrong.

OP asks:

The OP said she left her fiancé because he neglected her dog:

She was already shaken by her recent miscarriage:

She explained that her fiancé had lost his job earlier:

So, she ended up covering bills and everything else:

But her job was not paid so well:

Considering everything, she decided to leave:

So she left him a note:

Redditor said that it was the right thing to do

OP explained

The OP is not in the wrong

OP added

The situation with the dog was the last straw

He was not a supportive partner

A Redditor was curious:

And the OP responded:

Redditors told the OP that she was not in the wrong. Maybe the situation with her dog was the final straw for the OP to decide to leave him, but it definitely wasn't the only reason.

The OP listed everything that hurt her, and it seems the best option was to separate as her fiance clearly wasn't a supportive partner. He had neglected her emotional and physical pain.

Filip