Frustration Mounts For Woman As Jobless Boyfriend Uses Her Clothes For Paintball - He Can't Afford His Own

"I told him I don’t want him wearing my clothes anymore."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• June 11, 2024

People always say that the partners should share everything. But, let's not exaggerate with 'everything'.

Everyone knows that some things are private and should remain private. So, partners should support and respect each other privacy and boundaries.

It also involves recognizing and honoring each other's personal space, possessions, and emotional needs. It does not mean that the couple lacks love; on the contrary, they have a strong and honest relationship without bad feelings.

That stadium of relationship a girlfriend recently wanted to establish with her boyfriend. But, she was worried if her approach was right, so she shared her story online and asked Redditors for their opinion.

The OP (20F) and her boyfriend (20M) share most of their possessions. The OP enjoys wearing oversized t-shirts, typically men's medium, which also fit her boyfriend.

Recently, her boyfriend took up paintball and began wearing the OP's t-shirts, often returning them covered in paint. He also delays washing these stained clothes for two to three weeks, insisting the paint will wash out, although this is not always the case.

The situation escalated when he wore her favorite black cargo pants, which upset the OP because she valued how they fit her. Consequently, she confronted him and demanded he stop wearing her clothes.

During the heated discussion, the OP suggested he buy his own clothes. However, this argument unintentionally offended him due to his current unemployment.

The OP said she financially supports both of them comfortably, so money is not the issue, but the frustration when he carelessly ruins clothes he did not buy. Yet, she feels sorry for highlighting his lack of income and wonders if she was too harsh.

The OP asks

The OP explained that her oversized shirts fit her boyfriend's size

But the problem arose when he started wearing her clothes when going to paintball

She finally said to him that she didn't like him wearing her clothes

She told him to buy his own clothes, but the problem is he's unemployed

She explained that she supports them both, and they have no money issues

A Redditor said the OP should reconsider their relationship

Another Redditors agreed

The OP added

A Redditor pointed out that the boyfriend shouldn't be playing but working

A Redditor summed it up

The OP responded

So many red flags

Unfortunately, this might be true

A Redditor was curious why he doesn't wear his own clothes to paintball

The OP explained what was the problem

He sounds lazy

The obvious fact

A Redditor asked why he doesn't have a job

The OP explained they prefer to work seasonally

Wasteful and disrespectful

Redditors told her she was not in the wrong for forbidding her boyfriend to wear her clothes. He seems immature and lazy.

He should be more respectful towards her and her things. If he doesn't do so, maybe she should reconsider their relationship and think about what he brings into it.

Filip