Man Threatens To Drop His Girlfriend As Wedding Date Over Her Fierce Opposition To Him Wearing Kilt

The wardrobe war that left a relationship teetering on the edge.

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• June 6, 2024

When two of your closest friends decide to tie the knot, the excitement naturally builds. Invitations go out, and with them, loose guidelines circling around formalwear.

For most men, this meant a formal suit and tie. But for our narrator (Original Poster), whose formalwear often included a fetching 8-yard kilt paired with a Prince Charlie or Braemar jacket and waistcoat, this required a bit of clarification.

OP casually mentioned his dilemma to his girlfriend, Sara, then asked the bride-to-be if his kilt would suit the occasion. 

His girlfriend immediately pushed back on the idea, claiming a kilt wouldn’t be appropriate for such a formal event—even though she had seen him rock kilt on other formal occasions. However, she agreed the bride had the final say, so the matter was shelved for a few days.

The bride didn’t just give OP a massive green light; she also revealed that her husband-to-be and a few other guests would be draped in the same attire. 

OP thought the matter was settled, but Sara doubled down. She argued he'd stand out too much since he wasn’t in the wedding party.

Things got even more heated when a very confused groom texted OP because Sara had asked him to intervene and dissuade him from wearing a kilt. Feeling hurt and slightly betrayed, OP confronted Sara. 

Her defense? She feared he’d embarrass her. OP understood a kilt did garner a lot of attention, but he couldn’t help feeling mad. 

He went as far as threatening to drop her as his plus one, and the argument ended on a sour note. Was he the a**hole in this situation?

Let’s dig into the details

OP’s friends were getting married and specified a dress code. However, OP had an unusual attire in mind, which he relayed to the bride-to-be (Kate) for approval.

While waiting for a reply from Kate, OP’s girlfriend (Sara) hinted that his proposed outfit would be inappropriate. However, he could get a lucky approval since the groom and a few other would be wearing something closely related

To OP’s surprise, Sara secretly texted Max to get him to discourage OP from wearing the kilt. Her reason was that the outfit would most likely embarrass them at the event

OP understood Sara’s background gave her a negative feeling about his attire, however, he was upset and informed her that she did not have to go with him which made her angry.

Check out some interesting comments below:

“If your gf is embarrassed by the kilt, she needs to get over herself. They are a gorgeous piece of clothing with a long and proud history.”

“Your girlfriend has the same freedom to choose how to dress at this event.”

“There's nothing embarrassing about a kilt. It is perfectly acceptable and normal attire for a wedding.”

“It’s not weird at all, but it would be if no one else was wearing one and if he wasn’t Scottish himself.”

“Rock your kilt. She needs to get over it. This is entirely uncool.”

“I understand that you love her and that this is probably something that you don't see as a big deal, but you need to realize that it is a HUGE deal.”

Redditors unanimously declared OP NTA in this situation. The way they saw it, attending the wedding solo might just be the best option—that way, he could spare his girlfriend any ‘embarrassment.’

They also raised concerns about how her attempt to use the groom to influence OP’s decision screamed ‘control’ in capital letters. It was definitely a red flag worth noting in their relationship.

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Jesse