Jealous Ex-Wife Bans Son From Seeing Stepmom Because He Calls Her 'Mommy,' Redditors Tell Her She's Ridiculous

"I told his dad the next time he came to pick him up not to go to his house if his wife was there"

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• November 17, 2023

Divorced parents always try their best for their kids and new partners if they have them. Obviously, there must be some disagreements in that triangle.

There is no rule on how to keep everything under the line and correctly, so they just do what they think is most suitable. Therefore, a Reddit user asked the community for advice.

The OP explained she and her ex-husband have been divorced for over two years, and she has sole custody of their 5-year-old son, who visits his father weekly. After receiving a promotion at work, the OP had to travel to South Korea for four months, a trip she saw as beneficial for their future despite the prolonged separation from her son.

During this period, her son stayed with his father and the father's new wife. The OP resents his ex-husband's new wife due to suspicions of an affair with her ex-husband before their divorce, and they quickly became a couple post-divorce.

Upon returning, the OP faced a painful reality. Her son had developed a deep bond with his stepmother, even referring to her as "mommy."

This revelation was upsetting for the OP, as it seemed to make a difference in her son's connection with her. Her son's request to visit his father's house and his other "mommy" deepened the OP's sense of betrayal and jealousy.

In response, the OP demanded her ex-husband not take their son to his house when the new wife was present, believing her presence was harming her relationship with her son. However, her ex didn't honor her request, which led to further frustration and conflict.

Her ex-husband and former in-laws viewed the OP's actions as unreasonable and selfish. So, the OP is questioning whether her approach to the situation, driven by a combination of protectiveness and unresolved feelings towards her ex and his new wife, is justified or if it reflects poorly on her.

OP asks:

OP explained her son stayed with his father during her four-month business trip:

She also added why she doesn't like her ex-husband's new wife:

During the OP's absence, her son developed a strong bond with his stepmother:

It hurt the OP:

So she told her ex-husband to keep their son away from his new wife, but her request was seen as ridiculous:

One Reddit user told the OP that she's being jealous and petty

The other one agreed

The OP should talk with her husband before jumping to any conclusion

A Reddit user supported the father

One Reddit user was curious about what the OP expected to happen

The OP is lucky that the stepmom really likes her son

Redditors told the OP that she is acting ridiculous and petty indeed. She is lucky that the stepmom really cares for her son because it could go the other way, too.

She should talk with her husband about how their son calls his stepmom, but she should not forbid them from seeing each other.

Filip