Concerned Girlfriend Seeks Insight On Boyfriend's Female Coworker And Her Inappropriate Actions Toward Him

Talking about sex with a coworker is inappropriate, but the woman does it anyway.

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• Published in Interesting
• November 26, 2023

Boyfriend stealers — you'd think that they only exist in movies and fiction until you find out that a coworker is trying to get your significant other's attention. It's not uncommon for a tinge of unease to creep in when you sense someone might be eyeing your boyfriend.

The next time your partner introduces you to this new girl he met at the gym or a female co-worker keen on post-work drinks, accompany them. It's the perfect opportunity to gauge the situation.

Casually join for a drink, cordially introduce yourself, and let her know that he's already in a committed relationship. If suspicions persist, observe for subtle signs of flirtation or undue closeness.

Maintaining a friendly demeanor can help ease any tension and may even provide insight into her intentions. While it's necessary to safeguard your relationship, it's also essential to approach the situation with tact, potentially saving both your relationship and any existing friendship.

And if insecurities persist, discuss your feelings to alleviate fears. One perfect example of an open discussion is this story from the Relationships subreddit.

The original poster (OP) suspects that her boyfriend's coworker might be interested in him due to a series of actions. This coworker has been inviting her boyfriend for drinks, texting him after work, discussing intimate topics such as sex, and engaging in other behaviors deemed inappropriate, particularly given that he's in a relationship.

The OP is uncertain about the coworker's intentions. Fortunately, her boyfriend is open about the situation and does not entertain the said coworker.

The OP wants to confirm her suspicions about her boyfriend's coworker by asking an online community.

The woman invites the OP's boyfriend for one-on-one drinks.

The coworker also asks inappropriate questions and behaves inappropriately toward the OP's boyfriend.

She sought help from an online community to make sense of the coworker's actions.

While some Redditors didn't have a problem with the woman hanging out with the boyfriend, they do find her actions inappropriate.

A Redditor believes that the boyfriend needs to set boundaries with his coworker.

The coworker is showing a lack of consideration for the boyfriend by discussing sex with him, especially knowing that he's in a relationship.

A user believes that while the coworker seemingly has a crush on the OP's boyfriend, her actions look harmless.

The boyfriend needs to be firm about his boundaries. He doesn't have to be mean when setting them.

One user suggests a script for the boyfriend.

With her post, the OP successfully confirmed her suspicions, shedding light on the concerning behavior of her boyfriend's coworker. Now, the pivotal step is to trust her boyfriend, a sentiment echoed by the Reddit community.

Redditors emphasize that the responsibility lies with the boyfriend to address the situation with his coworker. The explicit conversations about sex and the post-work texts need to come to an end.

He needs to be proactive by establishing clear boundaries and communicating to the coworker that both he and the OP find her actions uncomfortable. This step not only protects the relationship but also ensures a healthier and more respectful workplace dynamic.

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