Girlfriend Wants Alone Time But Gets Upset When Boyfriend Gives Her Just That

"She called me out and called me 'entitled', not empathetic to her needs."

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• Published in Interesting
• December 17, 2023

If you're looking for the best answer on how to find a balance between studies and love, it's none other than effective time management. It involves prioritizing tasks, creating a schedule, and allocating dedicated study hours.

Yet another important thing is telling your partner about commitments and communicating your expectations and boundaries. Ensure quality time together by planning activities wisely.

But while everything looks easy at the beginning, circumstances can be a hindrance to balancing school and a relationship. Let's take a look at this story about relationships and studies from the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) subreddit.

The original poster (OP) is a male college student in a relationship with his girlfriend for three years. He lives more than a couple of hours away from school.

Since he has a longer commute and currently has a demanding schedule, he asked for help from his girlfriend by proposing to stay over for convenience. However, the partner declined, expressing a need for personal time and a desire to sleep in.

The OP doesn't see the difference whether he's in there or not. She games and sleeps whenever she wants.

He became upset over his girlfriend's inconsiderate decision, so he decided to go off until he calmed his emotions down. The girlfriend agreed to let him stay in the end, but not without incident.

She later accused him of being 'entitled' and lacking empathy. The girlfriend felt manipulated, citing the period of silent contemplation as baiting.

After getting into an argument with his girlfriend, the OP asks:

The background:

The OP has tons of stuff to do, that having a place to stay near his school would be a huge help.

He asked his girlfriend if he could stay over so that he doesn't have to go through the long commute.

But she wanted alone time, so she declined the OP's request.

The OP tells the community that his girlfriend does whatever she wants, even if he stays over.

The OP got upset and felt that his girlfriend was being inconsiderate.

The girlfriend eventually agreed, but felt that he baited her by going off for about 30 minutes.

A Redditor believes that walking away, just like what the OP did, was the best way to handle the situation.

One user thinks the OP's partner sucks as a girlfriend.

Nobody is in the wrong in this situation. Everyone needs their alone time.

The girlfriend, however, caused unnecessary drama here. She didn't have to react that way.

The OP didn't resort to the silent treatment, contrary to the girlfriend's perception. Choosing to process emotions without immediate reaction reflects a mature approach, and it's important for the girlfriend to recognize and understand this.

Since it's a busy week for the OP, he does need to cut back on spending time with his girlfriend and prioritize his assignments and presentations. Once the busyness is over, that's when he can get back to a regular schedule with his girlfriend.

And maybe the couple can talk about this issue too.

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