The story in detail
A bit of background
Ann asked OP’s wife (her sister) if she could stay with them till the housing situation was sorted
OP made it clear to his wife that he has a lot of reservations about Ann moving in with them
OP’s wife is upset and has accused him of not caring about her sister, especially because they sheltered his brother recently
Here’s how the Reddit community reacted to the story:
“NTA. You’re clear in your reasoning.”
“I can see why your wife would be hurt by this because she's not thinking about logistics here; she's just thinking with her heart.”
“NTA. You articulated clear and cogent reasons for declining to allow them to stay with you.“
“NTA. However, so she can’t accuse you of playing favorites, create a concrete contract.”
“NAH…Find Ann and her family a nice, affordable short term Air B&B and help them house hunt once they arrive.”
“NTA. With no assurance of what happens after a month or two you can end up in a bad situation.“
In the eyes of the Redditors, OP's rationale for refusing his sister-in-law's stay holds water. The community resonated with his concerns about the potential upheaval for him and the kids.
While acknowledging her desire to aid the family, the consensus was that his wife should weigh the profound impact on their household. Especially since the ‘temporary’ arrangement could potentially turn indefinite due to the challenging housing market.
They urged for collaborative brainstorming so more sustainable solutions might emerge.
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