Hopeless Wife Asks How To Deal With Her Husband's Absurd Punishments

"He said “next time don’t argue with me."

Filip

• Published in Weird
• October 31, 2023

Disagreements between a husband and wife are common in every marriage because each individual brings their own perspectives and feelings into the relationship. But, resolving conflicts is vital for the longevity of the partnership.

However, some couples tend to come up with unique and creative forms of 'punishment' when they are angry. This approach can lead to further misunderstandings and resentment.

For example, a husband might decide to 'punish' his wife by purposely forgetting to complete chores, and a wife might choose to communicate exclusively through notes to express her dissatisfaction. While these actions might momentarily satisfy the aggrieved party's need for revenge, they often worsen the issues.

Recently, a Reddit user shared her story about punishment. Her husband punished her, and it enraged her.

The OP explained she had intended to visit the store, but upon attempting to retrieve her purse, she discovered it was missing. She searched extensively yet was unable to find it. Therefore, she texted her husband to ask if he knew where her purse was.

He told her that he had her purse and added, "Next time, don't argue with me." They had an argument the night before, and this was the OP's husband's revenge.

The OP was so upset as her purse had numerous fundamental items. At this point, she is unsure what to do, but she finds the entire situation insane.

OP starts:

A Reddit user was curious if this was the first time her husband had 'punished' her

The OP responded that it wasn't the first time

The husband is immature

One Redditor questioned the husband's sanity

"I mean a kid and a parent would..."

But it's a fact

The husband is narcissistic

He looks at the OP like a child he needs to raise

"You are being abused"

"You really should see this as an enormous red flag"

"I'd ask for a police escort to take me to his place of employment to pick up my purse"

"This is totally unacceptable behaviour--he is intimidating you into not disagreeing with him."

A Redditor suggested the OP one painless solution

"When I read this it made my stomach turn"

Another Redditor advised her to call the police

But the OP explained that her husband is a police officer

This is definitely a controlling behavior

It's wrong on so many levels

It is a tactic that abusive partners use - confiscating someone's things.

Getting revenge on one's partner is not a healthy problem-solving approach. A more constructive approach would be open communication and compromise, seeking to resolve disagreements in a manner that strengthens the relationship rather than creating additional quarrels.

But it seems like the OP's husband didn't want to solve their disagreement; he just wanted to teach the OP not to argue with him anymore. It was childish behavior that many Redditors saw as abuse and advised the OP to leave her husband as soon as possible.

Filip