Husband Tells Wife To Use Her Inheritance For Insurance Instead Of Letting Her Brother Use It For Buying Land, Gets Called The A-hole For Meddling

Even if the wife contributes money to the property, she can't partially own the land because she's adopted.

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• Published in Interesting
• March 10, 2023

Greed and sibling rivalry are the main reasons why families fight over inheritances. Both tap into powerful human emotions, which include validation and desire for financial gain.

Greed simply drives people to act selfishly—sometimes in ways that are deemed unethical. It makes a person obsess over the financial windfall and go to extremes just to get their fair share (or perhaps try to gain even more).

On the other hand, sibling rivalry creates tension and disputes because of resentment and jealousy among brothers and sisters. One of them may feel that they were treated unfairly before or their sibling is their parents' favorite.

And let's not forget that although inheritances were fairly distributed, some people take advantage of their younger siblings. This seems to be the case in the story shared by a Redditor with the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) community.

The original poster (OP) is a man whose father-in-law was diagnosed with terminal cancer. The FIL decided to leave some money for both his wife and brother-in-law.

The OP mentions that they're not struggling financially, so he wanted to use the money for college funds and wedding funds for their children as well as their retirement.

However, his wife is being swayed by his BIL to invest in a family cabin. Since she's adopted into the family, it means that she has no rights to the land that her brother will purchase.

The OP is thoroughly against this idea. But his wife won't listen to him and is upset, telling him that he has no say in what happens to the money.

Now, he feels that he's an a-hole for telling his wife what to do with her money.

A man wants to be judged for trying to convince his wife how she should spend the money.

According to the OP, his FIL was diagnosed with a terrible disease.

The FIL distributed hundreds of dollars to both his wife and BIL.

The OP is against pooling the money for the cabin. He wants to use the money to invest in their retirement and children's future.

His wife disagreed and told him that he has no say on the matter.

Redditors believe that the OP's suggestion is the best decision.

The only person who gets the advantage is the OP's BIL.

The OP feels it isn't in his place to argue with his BIL.

Other Redditors feel that this issue needs to be talked about with the dying FIL.

She can contribute to the property only if it's also going to be under her name.

It's unfortunate, but the OP's spouse is just gullible.

If the wife won't listen to the OP, maybe it's time to involve an expert on the matter.

The BIL is being shady, but the OP's wife unfortunately doesn't see this.

If she won't listen to the OP's suggestions, maybe she can think about what to do with the money after six months.

Aside from a laywer, the OP and his wife can talk to a financial planner.

They can consult a real estate attorney on the matter.

The title needs to have the OP's wife's name.

Redditors feel that the BIL's plans is just a bad idea.

If the wife does agree with her brother, she needs to make it a point that her name is on the deed.

Greed is pushing the BIL to go this route.

The BIL is the true a-hole in this situation.

A Redditor suggests what the OP can do to find out the BIL's true colors.

While it's true that the OP has no say because the money is his wife's inheritance, Redditors agree that deciding to pool the money with his BIL is a stupid idea. Inheritance money should be spent wisely.

That's why it's better for the wife to ensure her children's future instead of using the money to build a cabin for the family.

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