Redditor Forbids Grieving Husband From Attending Ex-Wife’s Funeral, Only For Him To Threaten To Burn Their Marriage To The Ground If Necessary

“He made it clear that he’ll be going to the funeral, even if it puts our marriage on the line.”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• January 14, 2024

Our tale today revolves around a love story. Not between man and wife but the platonic kind between lifelong friends—our narrator’s (Original Poster’s ) husband and his ex.

From the moment OP and her spouse met, he made it very clear his “friend” was very important in his life. OP was in for a real shocker when a few months into the relationship, she unearthed a jaw-dropping revelation—this “friend” was actually his ex-wife!

He finally came clean with their friends-turned-lovers backstory. Marriage didn’t really work for them, and he assured OP they were strictly platonic now. 

He did give her the option to back out if she felt any unease; he’d known his friend for over twelve years and would choose her over OP in a heartbeat.

OP decided to suck it up and let them carry on with their friendship shenanigans. Through the years, the resentment simmered, and then one day, the unimaginable happened. 

OP's husband just concluded lunch with this friend when she suffered a sudden aneurysm on her way to the car. He was inconsolable for days, but all OP felt was relief. 

Now that OP’s greatest rival was out of the way, a new conflict emerged. She barred her husband from attending the funeral, insisting her influence in his life should end with her death—he’d mourned her enough.

The aftermath was explosive; he made it clear he’d attend no matter the circumstances, even if it destroyed their marriage. 

The entire family tagged OP as an insensitive a**hole for this. Was she wrong for wanting to close that chapter?

The story in detail

For context

Months into dating, OP discovered that her partner’s “friend” was actually his wife

Even after they got married, the husband was still spending quality time with his ex, much to OP’s disgust

Unfortunately, the woman passed away, leaving OP’s husband broken. Interestingly, OP tried stopping him from attending her upcoming funeral, which spiraled into a heated confrontation

OP’s husband, the late ex’s own husband and OP’s sisters unanimously declared them an “insensitive a**hole” for being relieved at the poor woman’s death

Here’s how the Reddit community reacted to the story:

“When he divorces you, he probably won't have to explain his friendship with you to the next woman.”

“YTA. You can speak freely, and he can leave after finding out how heartless you actually are. Fair enough.“

“You're the AH because he is grieving the loss of someone important to him and you're trying to invalidate his feelings.”

“YTA, and I don’t think you should be surprised if your husband goes to that funeral and doesn’t come back.“

“It’s awful to say, but you just got what you wanted. You just had to be quiet for two more weeks.“

Redditors were aghast at how one human could be so callous. It was a reverberating “YTA” verdict.

Her husband's dear friend died right in front of him and her response to his trauma was trying to stop him from paying his last respects. 

OP earns the Asshole award of the year for refusing empathy in the face of loss. A finale that left the community in disbelief at the perceived lack of compassion.

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Jesse