Wife Pressures Husband Into Hiring Her Brother To Renovate For Him, Brother Ruins The Space And Has To Pay The Price

"I don’t think I can look at her stupid brother without calling him stupid"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• January 26, 2024

There are specific people for different jobs that you want handled in your home. Selecting the best contractor for the job is an essential first step in the planning phase of your next home renovation project.

Selecting the correct contractor is one of the most crucial choices you'll make when upgrading your home. You have to check the contractor's quality of work beforehand, put your needs in writing, decide on the project's scope, and find out if the contractor has the necessary insurance and licensing in case something goes wrong.

Your renovation project may succeed or fail depending on the contractor you select, so make sure to do your homework and pick someone qualified, reputable, and experienced. The OP wanted to have a home office and decided to have some light renovations done.

He looked into hiring a professional contractor but his wife wanted him to hire her brother. The OP listed the reasons he was against it saying:

1st, he’s a handy man and not a contractor. 2nd, he doesn’t have insurance or even many of the tools required to do this job. All of the contractors I spoke to are insured and he had to borrow my tools. 3rd, I had to pay him money up front to cover the cost of materials while the contractors all have accounts with suppliers so they didn’t require any upfront money.

His wife still pressurised him and he ended up accepting. It turned to be a horrible decision and you can read the full story below.

OP kicks off his story

OP's BIL only noticed the leaking when he came back from lunch and the carpet was soaked

They told them about it a couple of months ago so everyone could get their calendar in order

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

1. I told me wife we’re canceling the trip we had plan for her family because her brother damaged our house

2. She said I’m punishing her nieces and nephews over something they didn’t do

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below

That is a reasonable discussion to have with a family

OP should go ahead and tell everyone the truth

Everyone will have their own opinion as to who is at fault

Telling everyone the trip is postponed for a year

OP's wife was the one who pushed for the job to be given to her brother

The OP will be expected to pay for the colleges too

The damage needs to be repaired and BIL isn't competent enough

They have to wait till the OP can afford it again

By selecting the best candidates for your renovation project, you get the best for your budget, design, and/or material selection. To some Redditors, it sounds like the wife's whole family is poor, and when you happen to be the "well-off" sibling, you tend to feel “obligated” to do certain things.

The OP was declared not the AH meaning he can forge ahead with his plans as that is what his BIL brought upon himself.

Maryjane