Redditors Are In Favor Of This Honest Mom's Response To Her Daughter After Being Betrayed By Her Husband And Bestfriend

The truth will always set you free.

Mary

• Published in Interesting
• December 21, 2021

Marriages do not always go well for everyone. It is either a lifetime, long term, or a short term experience for couples.

Cheating is one of the most common reasons for failed marriages. When a man or woman betrays his or her partner for another person, and this destroys trust, peace, and happiness within the relationship.

Aside from cheating, there are other reasons that might be within or outside the couple's relationship. Still, when this happens, the consequences of failed marriages can affect everyone in the family.

These can include lack of time and communication, problems among in-laws, financial reasons, abuse, and other issues that might be overlooked at first, but eventually became a bigger problem. This is why couples are advised to take counseling sessions for them to know how to handle problems and keep their relationships at best.

However, many instances that when a marriage doesn't work out and one of the couples or both of them choose to remarry, they create a blended type of family. With their children from their previous marriage and their current one, they might have co-parenting setup with previous partners, and children can choose which parent they wanted to stay with.

Like what happened to this Reddit user's family as she shared how their marriage failed because her husband and her best friend betrayed her. She posted her concern if she was wrong for telling her daughter that she doesn't feel okay for calling her ex-best friend her "mom", but doesn't forbid her from doing so.

How her bestfriend became her children's stepmom.

Their current family setup.

Her genuine answer to her daughter's question.

"I told her that no, I am not ok with that woman being called "mom", but she could call her that if she wanted to. Just because I don't like it doesn't mean she doesn't have to do it."

The mom being fair to her kids.

I have an honest policy with my kids, I am always open and honest with them. Just because I do not personally like something they do, doesn't mean I don't let them do it. 

Both of them are at fault.

"I blame both. I got betrayed by 2 people. 1 a husband and 1 a sister."

A different level of betrayal.

#1 An explanation would be enough for them to understand.

#2 You handled it gracefully.

#3 Your kids are old enough.

#4 Irrelevant and weird excuse.

#5 They might have said something to your daughter so she'd get mad at you.

#6 Just stop talking to your former mother-in-law.

#7 That is offensive.

#8 Never let them trespass your mom territory.

#9 The grandmother is definitely using her.

#10 You only gave what was asked from you.

#11 Honesty is still the best policy.

#12 Kindness won't change the roles and relationships in the family.

#13 They betrayed you.

#14 It seems like she's been influenced by someone.

#15 Never asked her to do something like that.

#16 Your crown isn't even crooked.

#17 This was not your daughter's idea.

#18 It is not confusing, but natural.

#19 Don't back down, ignore the rest.

#20 You former mother-in-law should mind her own business.

When marriages fail, it is always the children who will be most affected by the separation. Some children can probably understand why their parents choose to get divorced, but some don't.

It's up to the parents on how they'll be able to do their duties and responsibilities for their children even if they're no longer together. Honesty and open communication will help in maintaining their relationships with each other even in complicated family setups.

Mary