Woman Wants To Avoid Family Drama And Doesnt Invite Brother's Husband To Her Son's Birthday, Still Creates One When Brother Refuses to Attend

"I’m simply trying to please all of our relatives"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• September 20, 2023

Your baby's first birthday celebration, whether you're organizing a small get-together with loved ones or a huge party, is sure to be memorable, at least for you and the other adults and older children in your life. Yes, parents and their guests should actually attend a first birthday party.

This party won't stick in your baby's memory, and they might even feel overwhelmed by it. However, that doesn't mean you can't enjoy yourself.

The son of the original poster of today's story is turning one soon, and the OP was organizing a birthday party for him. She sent out invitations to everyone she wanted around that day.

Her brother got to know that their sister’s husband was invited, so he texted the OP, asking whether that meant his spouse would be welcome as well.

"I told him no, he wouldn’t be getting a plus-one, and he started questioning my decision. I simply told him that I don’t want them to draw any attention away from my baby and that whenever they show up to a family gathering, there will eventually be an argument, especially as his spouse has no understanding towards our grandparents finding it hard to adapt to changes in society or any respect for the older generation," the OP wrote.

This didn't go down well with the brother, and you can read the full story below to find out what happens next.

The OP pens down her story's title

OP's brother texted her asking whether that meant that his spouse would be welcomed as well

You’d expect a grown man to be able to spend an afternoon without his husband

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

I didn’t invite my BIL to my baby’s birthday party and my brother and sister seem to think that makes me an ah.

Out of the hundreds of comments generated by the story, we've gathered a bunch of the topmost replies for you to read through below

How dare her brother not provide his spouse as a target

The OP is condoning their harmful views

A grown woman should be expected to be able to spend the afternoon without her husband

It is not about being able to get away from his partner

The OP should just spill that she does not approve of her brother's husband

The OP is only catering to her family's homophobic beliefs

What the OP would have said to her relatives who aren't supportive

The OP has revealed that her relationship with her homophobic grandparents is more important to her

Many Redditors agreed that since the OP decided that siding with the homophobes is the best decision, then her brother is entitled to his own decision as well. Many redditors also noted that such a decision makes the OP a homophobe by association.

In the end, the OP was declared the AH, and you too can leave your verdict in the comments section below.

Maryjane