Bride-To-Be Tells Her Brother Not To Wear His Ring To Her Wedding, He Refuses And Gets Tagged A Hijacker

"The ceremony was beautiful but she didn't speak to me"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• November 19, 2023

No one wants their wedding day to be about someone else. It's THEIR day, and the couple should be allowed to have that one day to themselves, but we see a different scenario in today's AITA story.

The OP hadn't seen his family in a few months, and they've only had a handful of phone calls over the course of those months. OP says he never pulled one of these disappearing acts on purpose.

I've been fiercely independent for most of my life and I get easily caught up in whatever I'm doing at the time that makes it hard for me to remember to keep those not in my direct line of sight in the loop. My mother is the same way.

OP got in touch with his childhood friend, and he says it was one of the most important relationships in his life for over a decade. It turned into them getting married, and the OP decided to announce it two weeks before their trip for his sister's wedding.

"I wanted to assuage any possibility of us 'stealing any thunder' right from the get go. My mom replied that she was hurt that she wasn't told sooner or allowed to be there, which I understood," OP writes.

OP's sister asked him not to wear his wedding ring to her wedding as her rehearsal dinner was already about them, but the OP didn't listen. Read the entire story for yourself as you scroll down below.

The headline

The OP's been fiercely independent for most of his life and he gets easily caught up

OP's sister pulled him aside and asked if they would not wear their wedding rings to her ceremony

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

1. I wore my wedding ring to my sister's ceremony after she asked me not to.
2. Doing this, I might've drawn more attention to myself and the fact that I had gotten married without most of my family's knowledge, thus taking attention away from her.

The Reddit post went viral with more than 2k comments and we've gathered some of the topmost replies for you below

The OP seems remarkably self centered

Her rehearsal dinner became the OP and his spouse's debut

This Redditor wants to know the answer to an important info

The family's first time meeting the husband

The OP's can't be bothered to think about others as he wants the focus to be on him

The OP should plan his own reception than redirecting the attention of people that came for his sister's wedding

The OP's doesn't understand the consequences of his actions

It's really not about the rings; rather, it's about what they represent—OP's marriage—and how he chose to announce it to his close family two weeks before his sister's wedding, essentially taking the limelight away from her special day. Many Redditors said he could have waited until after the wedding before he spilled; hence he was declared the AH in the story.

Maryjane