64 Hidden Truths Behind Romanticized Ideas That Seem Perfect

These real stories reveal the hidden struggles behind the shine.

Damjan

• Published in Community
• November 18, 2024

Stories influence our worldview and decision-making. Storytelling is at the heart of many things in life, whether it's the presentation of a financial report, the tactics of a successful sports team, or the tale of a great vacation. But not all stories are as perfect as they appear.

Beneath every headline or success story lies a reality that’s often tougher, more complicated, and far from as glamorous as it seems. In a world where professions and lifestyles are usually painted in idealized terms, it’s easy to believe that success comes effortlessly.

However, this polished picture of existence often hides the more challenging, less glamorous realities. A recent Reddit discussion illustrated the extent of this idealization.

By sharing their stories, thousands better understood the realities of various professions and life decisions. Many things people think are glamorous or simple are far more complex and complicated than they first thought.

From the pressure of always being on call in high-demand jobs to the hidden stress of seemingly perfect careers, the conversation offered a candid glimpse into many's everyday struggles. It highlighted how easy it is to get caught up in the shiny image of specific jobs or lifestyles, only to discover that the picture is much more complex and often requires more than meets the eye. Here’s the list.

Think your dream job or lifestyle is all glamour?

Insomnia.

"A self-sustaining family "farm" life. It's practically impossible for a lone family to achieve it."

Running cute little coffee shop/bookstore.

"I bet you picture yourself just having a cup of Joe and chatting about Cormac McCarthy with an elderly gentleman in a tweed coat. You’re never gonna be profitable but you won’t realize it until about 2 1/2 years in. Also that guy never showed up, he’s got a Kindle."

Birthing and raising a baby.

"People will acknowledge that it’s not easy, sure, but it’s so much harder than imagined, especially if you don’t have a good support system.

Edit: May I just say I’m glad so many people felt they could relate to each other in this subject and have an open discussion. In our society we tend to forget we are allowed to have multiple complex emotions, even more so when it comes to parents and children, and it’s not as simple as positive vs negative.

Anyone who agrees with this post can still love their children and love being a parent and not want to change things. Hell, you can weirdly hate being a parent but still love and care for your kids. You can also adore kids and never want to be a parent yourself. It’s all valid. Feel how you feel and take everything one baby step at a time. Just try not to take those feelings out on the world 😅."

Turning something you love into a business.

"Often, instead of "I turned my passion into money!" It's "I turned something I love into work."

I am currently scaling back my photography business because I don't love photography like I used to. It's work now."

Pulling yourself out of poverty.

Becoming a small farmer.

"You work harder than you thought was possible, more of your body hurts than you knew you had, you make less than you ever thought possible, and people still tell you they can get it at Walmart for cheaper."

Jealousy.

"I'm not a big fan of the jealousy/over-protective/possessive trend making the rounds as of late. I get the desire to be protected and the logic behind your partner feeling jealous but I honestly can't fathom how normalized it has become. I don't want to feel jealous - I firmly believe that feeling is born from insecurity or a lack of trust."

Being unable to work due to disability.

Living in Japan as a foreigner.

"There's a certain subset of people that really romanticize Japan and Japanese culture as highly advanced technologically and socially. It's not that Japan is actually particularly a bad place to live. But they still utilize antiquated technology, have dated social mores and brutal work-life "balance", and are quite xenophobic and openly turn away foreigners from many services (even medical care). It's not some anime utopia where everything is perfect. It's quite a challenging place to live for foreigners. It seems Japan welcomes the visitor but does not always welcome the immigrant."

Owning a restaurant.

Starting a business.

War.

Autism and ADHD.

Relationships.

Objectively looking at your life and deciding to turn it around.

" Alot of people think that the hard part is actually just being able to evaluate your life objectively and see what you need to change and it gets easier after that, but the truly hard part is actually processing it and keeping that mindset down the track. A lot of people go through a very unhealthy cycle of being disappointed and depressed with their lives and themselves, genuinely want to change for the better, but end up subconsciously pushing those thoughts out of their brain."

Authoritarianism.

Revolutions.

Not moving on from a partner.

"Like "I still love you!" after years of not being together. That's super sad and unhealthy actually :("

Life as an artist.

Travelling for work.

"Edit to add why: Exhausting long flights and airport procedures, living out of a suitcase, and catered meals so you’re limited to what you’re eating and most of it is junk. Every minute of your time is scheduled and you either have to or have an obligation to spend the entire time with your colleagues: definitely from 9-5, but also your lunch break, and usually dinner. Then kick-on drinks are an expectation, and sometimes it’s a group brunch. You’re always in performance mode and often meeting new people daily. You miss your family (including pets!) and have no time to switch off and just be yourself - even worse if time zones mean you can only talk to your family in early mornings and late at night. Can imagine how much it must suck when you have young kids.

My husband travels every few months, usually internationally and for about a week at a time. Way less than some people have to, which I’m thankful for! I recently spent two days at a work conference for the first time, and finally realised he wasn’t lying when he said he usually hated travelling for work. Probably fun if you’re single and genuinely love your work, but not for me thanks."

"Working yourself to the bone".

"People romanticize "working yourself to the bone" as some badge of honor, like hustling 24/7 is the only path to success. You see it all the time—glorified late nights, sacrificing weekends, constantly grinding. The reality? It’s exhausting and often just leads to burnout, not success.

In the movies, the overworked genius hits a breakthrough and changes the world, but in real life, you're more likely to just end up stressed, sleep-deprived, and missing out on everything else that makes life worth living. Balance isn’t lazy; it’s smart. Real success usually happens when you have the energy and mental space to actually enjoy it."

"Higher education. It’s not all parties and socializing, it can actually be very lonely and isolating."

Shower se*.

High paying corporate jobs.

"It's not all 'boss babes' and power suits. Depending on the industry, it's 90 hour weeks and no energy for life. I had the big window corner office, a condo on the 32nd floor on the Vegas strip, car service/laundry service/cleaning service/housekeeper, and a closet full of designer s**t. It was great that I was able to do certain things (like take care of myself and my family), but that job literally sucked the life out of me. After 3 years I was so depressed that I didn't get out of bed for 3 weeks and almost lost my job.

That life is not what people make it out to be."

Living off grid.

The idea of a "dream job"

Self love/learning how to love yourself.

Island Living.

"S**t is hard unless your rich.

Yeah I live in paradise- but I pay like 5.25 for a gallon of gas, my rent for a 1 bedroom is 2200 plus utilities (which are outrageous expensive)- a box of cereal is like 15$ and not for a family size.

My mail gets “lost” in Puerto Rico-a lot.

Power outages are super frequent, and we just got running water back after 2 days without as well."

Living in the city on a budget.

Combat.

Being an artist.

Van life.

Novelist.

Having twins.

"So many people tell me they’d love to have twins. The reality is that you’re going to have a high risk pregnancy and have a high chance of giving birth prematurely. Having two newborns is exponentially harder than one newborn, ditto with the sleep deprivation and those newborns are more likely to have issues you don’t get with a term baby. My twins had both colic and reflux and I was so tired I hallucinated. It might look like I had it together pushing two sleeping newborns in their pram but the reality was that I averaged 1 to 2 hours sleep a night and the reason I was out pushing them in the pram was because that was the only way they slept for any decent amount of time. I love my twins but would have preferred they came at least a year apart. "

Film industry.

Being a musician.

Snow.

"Mental illness or playing an instrument."

"Marriage."

"Living in NYC."

International romances.

Roughing it.

Making money online via YouTube or Instagram.

Moving abroad.

Being in the Special Forces.

"Being seriously famous."

Boxing. Mma.

Being a doctor.

Growing up poor and on the streets.

"Making love on the beach. "

Writing a novel.

Caring for a severely disabled child.

Living in Paris.

Professional sports.

"Some people consider ADHD some sort of "super power". It is absolutely not."

Pulling yourself up your bootstraps.

Being single.

Being alone.

"Being in a toxic."

Working in the beauty industry.

"Working from home."

Pregnancy Depression Eating disorders .

A married farmer w/ kids.

The Reddit conversation demonstrates how easy it is to become engrossed in an idealized view of life. We often forget the challenges and hard work that go into becoming a famous athlete, a successful businessman, or a glamorous professional.

Travel, family life, and simple pleasures can all seem fantastic but also come with everyday challenges. When we focus too much on the idealized picture of specific vocations or lifestyles, we overlook the genuine obstacles people confront.

Hidden hardships give success stories meaning. When we understand the challenging aspects of life, we may better appreciate the effort needed to achieve great things. Thus, the next time you hear about someone's ideal life or career, think about the reality behind it. Frequently, there is more to a story than initially appears.

Damjan