Divorced Man Gives His Heirloom Engagement Ring To His Son, Now Wants It Back For His Newborn Daughter

"That way would stay in his family forever"

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• December 11, 2023

Some couples end their marriage with agreement and live separately peacefully with maximum cooperation when necessary. Still, others cannot agree and divorce in a heavy argument without any further cooperation.

There is also a third group, who divorce peacefully but later become unreasonable and start quarrels about everything, like in this story. The OP is a 35-year-old female.

She shares her story about her previous marriage with her ex-husband, a 36-year-old male. They were married for a decade but divorced three years ago, and together, they have a 5-year-old son.

The divorce process was friendly, with no incidents of infidelity and mutual agreement on all matters, including co-parenting their son. In the divorce agreement, they specified the OP would keep her engagement ring, a family heirloom from her ex-husband's side, to eventually pass it down to their son.

Since the divorce, the OP has maintained a positive relationship with her ex-husband. The OP also has a good relationship with her ex-husband's new girlfriend, who recently had a baby girl with him.

The OP includes them in all family events and holidays, showing support and excitement for their new family addition. However, a complication arose when her ex-husband requested the OP to return the heirloom engagement ring so he could pass it down to his newborn daughter and keep it in his family line.

The OP reminded him of the divorce agreement, which explicitly says the ring's future ownership by their son. Her ex-husband suggested altering this arrangement, but the OP declined. After her refusal, the OP received calls and texts from her ex-husband, arguing that the original agreement was made without considering the possibility of him having another child.

So, the OP asks for opinions on whether her stance in this situation is justified.

Here is the OP's dilemma:

The OP explained their divorce was friendly:

They agreed that she would keep the heirloom engagement ring and eventually pass it to their son:

But when her ex-husband got a daughter, he changed his mind and wanted it back:

So, the OP wants to know if she is in the right for not wanting to return it:

Redditor believed he just wanted the ring for his new girlfriend

It will stay in the family with their son also

That should be the son's decision when he is old enough

A Redditor asked why the ex doesn't consider his son as family

The OP explained

One Redditor explained their point of view

Redditors told the OP that she was not in the wrong for not wanting to return her ex-husband the ring. It is specified in their divorce agreement that the ring belongs to their son.

So maybe one day, when the son is old enough, he can decide if he wants to return it. Redditors also believe that the ex wants to take the ring back so he can give it to his new girlfriend, which makes things worse, and the OP is definitely in the right for keeping it to her son.

Filip