15 Years Of Marriage In Question After Man Discovers Wife's Hurtful Text Message

"I keep asking myself if part of our marriage is fake"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• January 28, 2024

Everyone knows that marriage is not easy, though it is quite enjoyable. It requires giving up something, making a sacrifice, and opening up to someone else.

It does, however, promise a huge return if you are ready to work hard and follow the right path. Yes, being engaged is a joyous and exciting moment, and organizing a wedding may occasionally be exhilarating as well.

The actual details that come into play after saying "I do," however, are seldom discussed or considered beforehand. The outside of a new car might be glossy and smell fresh but, the seat won't feel really comfy until you've been in it for some time, and the sophisticated gadgets can be overwhelming at first until you figure out exactly what they all do and how to use them.

That is how marriage is and it's not always pleasant but it can be intricate. There are times when strong feelings come to the surface, and family dynamics can take nasty and complex forms.

In fact, married life presents a variety of obstacles on a daily basis and we see one of such in today's story. The OP saw an old message sent by his wife to a friend saying that he's not handsome but he treats her so well.

The OP has mixed feelings since the message is really old but it hurts a lot since he finds his wife very pretty and he assumed it was reciprocal.

OP writes

OP finds his wife very pretty and he assumes it is reciprocal

The Reddit post went viral with more than a thousand comments and we've gathered some of the most upvoted ones for you below

He's the most handsome man to this Redditor

She shouldn't have shared that with a friend

The OP should have a mature conversation with her

She still wasn't attracted to me

The OP left more details in the comments based on the questions in the comments:

• The message was sent early in our relationship when we started dating.
• My wife told me many times during our marriage that she feels connected emotionally and physically. Her behavior shows that.
• I am fit and I have good hygiene :) I don't consider myself handsome in the classic definition.

Not as handsome as the world sees handsome

It's kind of disrespectful and unnecessary

These message were from years ago

What is important is that...

People change over the years

The pictures of joyful, smiling couples who are in love, holding hands, dancing, and kissing come to mind when you hear the term "newlywed." However, a newlywed pair is not all that different from anything new but the OP has been with his wife for years.

Some Redditors say that being with someone who genuinely has a burning passion for you changes your entire outlook on life. The OP's view had now been changed and we hope he handled it in the best way possible.

Maryjane