Lady Who Has Strong Feelings For Two Men But Casually Involved With One Wants To Know If She Should Choose One, Both Or None

What is it going to be?

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• April 20, 2023

It's not unusual to feel attracted to several people at once. However, it won't just have an impact on you if you act on those feelings.

Being in love with two people can occasionally lead to issues in relationships, fear, or other concerns. It may be easier to decide how to proceed with your romantic interests if you are aware of how you might react in different circumstances.

Make sure that everyone involved is aware of and OK with your desire to date more than one individual. Make sure you can manage it ahead of time as well.

Examine your readiness for the challenging feelings and circumstances that come with dating numerous individuals. Meet u/noseythrowaway2, a Redditor who has strong feelings for two guys.

It all started when she left her long-term boyfriend after he started abusing her. Now, her job and new flat are great, as is her life.

The OP didn’t want to be in a relationship for a while, but things didn't go her way as she started talking with someone. Their relationship was over the phone, as they were countries apart.

In comes a coworker named Max, who asks her out, and they start being intimate. One thing led to another, and she met with the first guy, and it's been all shades of mixed feelings since then.

Read the entire story for yourself as you keep scrolling down. 

The title is pretty interesting...

The OP decides to section her story for a better understanding

The OP's friendship with this guy escalated to something more intimate

Due to the calls being postponed, the OP cried because she was super sad about it

The OP added that she and Max hasn't had any discussion about exclusivity

The OP ended up with the first guy in her hotel room and they did everything except penetrating

The OP is meeting up with the second guy soon and it's a circle again

Maybe OP needs to be single

Apparently, Redditors took their time in detailing their advice for the OP and here are some of them

This Redditor wants the OP to treat George as a friend since he lives in a different country.

This Redditor is advising the OP to stay single for a while in other to figure herself out

This story reminds this Redditor of a movie but they can't remember the name

According to this Redditor, there's nothing wrong with multiple concurrent sexual relationships as long as everybody understands what is happening

Here is another Redditor who is advising OP to remain single for the time being

Being in love with two individuals need not imply that you wish to avoid monogamy or relationships with both. However, if all parties agree and are receptive to the dynamic, polyamory may be a possibility.

This is not the case here, and Redditors have given their own advice to the OP. It's left for her to figure herself out and know what she wants.

Maryjane