Woman Decides To No Longer Welcome Harsh MIL Into Their Home, But Husband Isn't Making Things Easy

"She knew I wasn’t to be trusted"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• February 15, 2024

We want other people to think well of, love, and respect us, therefore we do all kinds of ridiculous things. However, there is a thin line separating being kind and becoming a doormat, or someone who lets others walk all over them.

You might be a doormat if you're someone who often gives in to pressure from other people and if you frequently feel like your life belongs to someone else. In today's story, the OP believed that her partner was being a door mat to his mom.

The OP and her partner have been together for 5 years and have a baby. His mom has always been a possessive one, and he’s never set boundaries and is still scolded like a child whenever he acts in a way that doesn’t suit her.

One time they couldn't make it to her place, she went absolutely nuts, to the point she made her partner cry and ended up packing for them to make the trip still. Another time she couldn't stay to welcome her MIL, only to get back and hear her scolding her boyfriend about how rude the OP is for not being there and making zero effort.

The OP's fed up and decided to make things all about herself to prevent her partner from seeing his family. MIL is now acting like the OP wants her dead and for her partner to cut ties with his family for absolutely no reason.

The headline

OP's BF was inbetween jobs and she was at high risk of miscarriage

OP made last Christmas all about herself to prevent him from seeing his family

She says she never asked him to leave the OP and that she's making things up

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I feel like I might be the asshole because I didn’t confront MIL straight away and assumed BF would defend me without having to make things clear first. I thought by avoiding drama that it would just cool down and it would be forgotten but unfortunately by not addressing the issue earlier and setting boundaries for myself early in the relationship I just made it worse

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say regarding the story

One of his jobs is to protect his child

The OP won't put up with it anymore

His inaction is unacceptable

He needs to step up

Has the OP tried confronting her directly?

OP's BF is a spineless jelly fish

She's proven unworthy of respect

Many Redditors wondered what OP's partner would do if the OP imposed limits and adopted a more forceful attitude toward his mom. Will he support his mom or remain neutral as he has done so far?

Redditors were sorry that the OP had to have a baby for someone who is unable to stand up to his mother. Eventually, the OP was declared not the AH.

Maryjane