Insignificant Family Dispute Over Leftover Halloween Candy Makes Redditors Create All Kinds Of Conspiracy Theories

She cursed at him for opening another bag of candy which they were supposed to donate to a charity drive

Chelsi
Insignificant Family Dispute Over Leftover Halloween Candy Makes Redditors Create All Kinds Of Conspiracy Theories

Yelling rarely gets the message across to the other person. A loud voice will surely capture someone's attention, but it is not a productive mode of communication.

It can even cause even bigger problems which is what happened between this couple who asked Redditors for advice. OP started it by saying that she thinks she may have been wrong, but she needed someone else's objective opinion to settle her conflicting emotions.

She and her husband had a huge fight about Halloween candies. OP asked him not to open any more bags until they gave everything they already set out.

OP wanted to donate all of the unopened bags to their dentist's office, which holds an annual candy drive during the spooky season. Her husband was looking directly at her and, without batting an eye, opened another bag of chocolates.

"Why the f*ck would you do that when I literally just finished asking you to please not!" OP blurted that in anger which her husband did not appreciate.

He asked why she would curse at him that way. OP immediately picked up on her mistake and apologized for expressing her anger in such a crass manner.

However, she said, her anger was still valid despite how she expressed it. Her husband refused to accept her apology because her explanation sounded like a justification to him.

OP said she wasn't trying to justify her cursing, she was simply explaining where her anger is coming from but he doesn't want to accept that he played any part in this

OP said she wasn't trying to justify her cursing, she was simply explaining where her anger is coming from but he doesn't want to accept that he played any part in thisu/BuckbeakWitherwings

He told her that she could either apologize and drop the issue entirely or the rest of their night will be ruined

He told her that she could either apologize and drop the issue entirely or the rest of their night will be ruinedu/BuckbeakWitherwings

OP thinks the ultimatum is unfair which her husband took as OP's unwillingness to drop the subject

OP thinks the ultimatum is unfair which her husband took as OP's unwillingness to drop the subjectu/BuckbeakWitherwings

He went to their bedroom to take a shower but not before curtly telling OP to feed the dog and to stop talking to him

She followed him to the bedroom to talk again but he said abusers do not give their victims any space to think and that is exactly what OP is doing to him. OP knows that she basically started the argument but is she the only a**hole here?

He went to their bedroom to take a shower but not before curtly telling OP to feed the dog and to stop talking to himu/BuckbeakWitherwings

One of the commenters said that they are both at fault and should apologize to each other appropriately & sincerely which OP thinks she already did

One of the commenters said that they are both at fault and should apologize to each other appropriately & sincerely which OP thinks she already didjrm1102, BuckbeakWitherwings

She also agreed when someone said they are behaving like children

She also agreed when someone said they are behaving like childrenPaleAd7525, BuckbeakWitherwings

OP explained why the candy drive at the dentist's office was so important to her

OP explained why the candy drive at the dentist's office was so important to herAvversariocasuale, BuckbeakWitherwings

He did turn things around rather quickly and laid all the blame on OP

He did turn things around rather quickly and laid all the blame on OPLoubyAnnoyed

It honestly sounds like a petty fight that got blown out of proportion because neither of them is willing to calm down enough to discuss things

It honestly sounds like a petty fight that got blown out of proportion because neither of them is willing to calm down enough to discuss thingsSomething_morepoetic

For the sake of their future child, they both should get therapy individually and as a couple because if this is how they fight...

For the sake of their future child, they both should get therapy individually and as a couple because if this is how they fight...Outside-Ice-5665, 3cc3ntr1c1ty

OP updated after a while and shared that her husband apologized to her after he cooled down

OP updated after a while and shared that her husband apologized to her after he cooled downu/BuckbeakWitherwings

OP said her husband just got defensive because he was rather shocked by her cursing at him. She also thanked everyone for their concern but doesn't believe this moment is definitive enough for everyone to say that her husband is abusive.

Redditors often jump to conclusions, and this is not worth getting a divorce over.

Chelsi