
Father Tries To Guilt-Trip Son Into Accepting His New GF By Saying His Late Mother Would Approve
"We have had argument after argument, especially with my wife’s old stuff."

Dealing with the loss of a loved one is a challenge that never truly goes away, no matter how much time passes. For OP and his family, the passing of his wife, Jen, four years ago continues to cast a heavy shadow over their lives.
The pain is not just felt by OP but also by his son, Jack, who is now 28 years old and still grappling with the void left by his mother's absence. Jack's struggle to adapt to life without his mom is evident in his strained relationship with his father.
They often clash over Jen's belongings and reminisce about how things used to be when she was around. Despite OP's efforts to support his son, including suggesting grief counseling, Jack remains resistant, unable to find his footing in a world that feels incomplete without his mother's presence.
Recently, OP decided to start dating again, and he felt it was time to share this news with his family. While most of the family members understood, tensions flared when Jack heatedly argued with OP's new girlfriend.
In a moment of disrespect, Jack crossed a line, prompting OP to step in and defend his partner. In doing so, OP couldn't help but invoke the memory of Jen, reminding Jack of how disappointed she would have been by his behavior.
Now, a question lingers in the air: Was OP wrong to stand up to Jack?
OP's son Jack, now 28, struggled profoundly after his mother Jen's passing four years ago, he finds it difficult to cope with change, particularly when it involves his relationship with OP.

Constant arguments arise, particularly over OP's wife's old belongings, whether it's storing her clothes in the attic or altering the garden layout from how Jen did it, disagreement ensues.

OP repeatedly urged him to seek grief counseling, but he refused, and recently OP informed his family about the decision to start dating again, and they were supportive.

OP's son unexpectedly ran into OP's girlfriend while returning some tools, without giving OP a chance to introduce her, he referred to her as "the bitch."

OP reminded him to respect his girlfriend, suggesting his mother would disapprove of this behavior, but he left, calling OP an asshole.

It's been four years since her passing; he needs to accept that OP decides to move on.

OP's son needs to find professional help after four years of struggling.

Grieving doesn't justify rudeness and Jack's anger is evident, and at 28, he needs to acknowledge he requires help.

Jack should treat OP's girlfriend with respect, even if he doesn't want a relationship with her.

OP's son shouldn't speak to OP's partner that way.

He should seek counseling and understand that OP is entitled to live his life without idolizing his late wife.

OP's son's negativity towards OP's girlfriend after four years is unjustified and selfish.

OP's son disrespected someone in OP's home, which isn't acceptable.

He indeed needs professional help with his grief, but OP can't force that.

Understandably, Jack's dealing with some heavy emotions, but he's not handling things well with OP's new girlfriend. It's been four years since Jen passed, and it's fine for OP to start a new chapter with someone else.
Jack needs to open up and share what he's going through with someone. Taking it out on OP's girlfriend isn't fair, especially since she hasn't done anything wrong.
OP has every right to stand up for his girlfriend and pursue his happiness, and Jack needs to realize that and be more supportive. Being rude to someone in OP's own home just isn't cool.

Damjan
