Frustrated Groom Tells His Entitled Sister She Can't Bring A Plus One To His Small Wedding Since She And Her Four Children Are Already Attending

"It's really cute that she wants to wine and dine someone at your expense."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• April 17, 2023

Wedding planning is a minefield of potential family drama and intrigues. From wedding invites to food choices — there will always be an element that people will take offense to.

The unnecessary drama adds to the already full plate of the soon-to-be-wed couple. Nevertheless, they have to placate the guests or put their foot down when the problem gets out of hand.

In this particular wedding, a relative's lack of a plus one started the issue. The OP is the 30-year-old groom who's finally done with his sister's petty drama.

They have a small venue; therefore, a strict limit on how many people they are allowed to invite. They just decided not to have a child-free wedding after protests from the guests when OP's sister brought up another problem.

His older sister, along with her four kids, are attending the wedding. She got mad when she received her wedding invite.

Her wedding invite was specifically addressed to her and her four kids. Obviously, this meant that she couldn't bring a date.

OP thought this wouldn't be a problem since her sister is recently separated from her ex-boyfriend. He was too optimistic.

His sister called and said she assumed that she would get a plus one like the other adults. OP said that couldn't happen since she and her kids are already 5 of their allowed 105 guests.

Their food isn't also cheap, even for the younger kids. OP is already paying $500 just for his sister and her kids, so he isn't willing to pay more for a random she plans on inviting.

His sister reasoned that she may not be dating anyone but it wouldn't be difficult to invite a friend to dance with

OP told her that her four kids are more than enough to keep her company for the party instead of a plus one

Their dad supports his choice because he is also tired of having OP's sister living at their house

While their mom is siding with OP's sister because a plus one is normal for adults. OP doesn't want to spend $600 for his sister's family alone but he is worried that he is treating her unfairly.

They said OP can charge his sister $100 to feed her plus one if she insists on it or their mom can chip in

OP said her sister can't afford to pay for her own date but he thinks it's unreasonable if she gets another guest at the wedding when she and her five kids are already attending

It's time for OP's sister to grow up and OP has the final say on who can attend his wedding especially since he & his partner are paying for the whole thing

Maybe her sister wants a +1, so she can pawn her kids off while she parties all night

OP could have worded it better and stressed that there is no wiggle room with the allowed guests at the venue

OP clarified his choice, but even if there is a space for a plus one, his reasons for capping his sister's guests is more than understandable

Being a part of one family is no excuse to be this entitled, if anything, she should be the first to understand OP's strict guest list

She could make other choices but her approach is my way or the highway

Given that OP originally wanted a child-free wedding, allowing his sister's four kids to attend is enough generosity

OP's sister has another choice, but she probably won't like it

She's going to find a way to bring a guest and make a scene at the wedding

OP's sister can dance with the other invited adult guests if that's what she's really worried about

The fact that she thinks that she has a say on the guest list of someone else's wedding says a lot about her character. She is the groom's sister, you would think she would be more understanding but she's his number one source of headaches.

OP has to stand firm and tell his sister that she can't bring a plus one to his wedding. She can be barred from entering the venue if she insists on breaking his trust, as many of the Redditors predicted.

Chelsi